Migraine

Hey.

Just curious if people are interested in using this board more often. It was quite helpful to me a few months ago and I'm sure that it will be again soon.

If anyone has a spouse, family member, or friend that needs questions answered or just needs some emotional support please send them to this community and this board.

I love my wife with every fiber in my being but at times her health issues get overwhelming and its good to know I'm not alone.

Peace,

Dave

Dave, you scared me! What timing!!

I was actually going to ask you about how you'd feel about talking with my other half on here... had the idea this morning at about oh- 4 o' clock in the morning while feeling like I was NOT GOING to the ER because of nausea and vomitting.. and we were BOTH up, and it had ramifications for this weekend (his family's serious event)...


Is this okay with you- perhaps after your fun weekend with all the kids?

Dave & anyone else out there,

My family member who suffers with migraines is my son-not my spouse. But, I have plenty of frustrations that I'm sure most family members can relate with:

Not being able to take away his pain.
Afraid he is going to cross that line and have a stroke.
Being worried about him when he gets depressed.
Trying to find a good doctor.
Fighting with insurance to pay for tests or prescriptions since he is so young.
Trying to educate his school administrators and teachers.
Staying behind at my work or other responsibilities.
Getting embarassed because he is irritable and snappy with me in public (it comes off as disrespectful and bratty) and no one around me knows how much pain he truly is in. My husband and I have had so many fights about this one. He says he knows he hurts, but we can't let him take advantage of it and be disrespectful. I say I agree with that to an extent but, at the same time if my husband had a constant pain in his head for eleven days, no one could stand to be around him!

Well, that's enough for now. I'm here for anyone who needs to talk or support.

Yvonne-MigraineMom

I wish my husband would check out this community, but he's a quiet guy.

He needs support too, though. He's too stubborn.

My husband's the same. Very quiet, and often introverted.
I wish there was something I could do to get him to talk to people who understand, but he insists it isn't him living with this disease, it's me. He says he does all he can to help, but when it comes to the crunch, I'm the one lying in a ball crying my eyes out and while it's upsetting for him, it isn't his illness to claim. I understand what he's saying, but it worries me that he won't accept any support when he is going through something here too. He brushes off sympathy and kind words, and redirects them all to me, saying he's fine, and it doesn't have any major impact on him, which would only be true if he didn't care, and that is so far from the truth it's scary.

Wow, Migraine Mom, I though for a second you were talking about my son!! It is refreshing to not feel alone, especially about the snappy in public and dad not really on the same page shall we say. Anyway Thanks for posting that and letting me know my kid and husband aren't the only ones like that!!

Breeh,

Glad my post helped. It was nice to hear back from you. I get migraines myself but, they are not that bad for me. Sometimes, I feel like an outsider in here because I don't suffer as much as others. It's nice to know that there are Moms on here that need a place to express their feelings too.

Take care,
Yvonne-MigraineMom

Sometimes I think it is harder to be close to someone who has migraine than to actually have migraine... when I have a really bad migraine and I see my mom it just breaks my heart...
So thanks for everythink you are doing for us

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Originally posted by Neu(t)rino:
Sometimes I think it is harder to be close to someone who has migraine than to actually have migraine... when I have a really bad migraine and I see my mom it just breaks my heart...
So thanks for everythink you are doing for us

I agree. Since I've been living 500 miles away for the past some years- and was diagnosed after being here a while, my mom's only seen little bits of baby migraines- never the whole thing. However, she was with me the summer when my antidepressants were changing over and over and over again, and saw that. (about 7 years ago) Me curled up in a ball, crying, in mental pain...That was just about as bad as you could imagine seeing someone... Well... I hope she never sees me with a full clad migraine- one where I have to go to the ER while i'm visiting her,or vice versa. (Well, if I have to go- I think i'd rather be here...at least I know the nurses and docs)

It must be horrible to watch a loved one go through so much pain. Thank you to all who wipe that tear, or hold the hand, or gather the sunglasses, or cuddle you in their arms. Y'all are my heroes.

Yeah, my mom has a hard time dealing with my head issues too. Of course, she has a guilt complex over the PFO thing too, but it's not her fault and had they found it when I was small they would not have done anything to it anyway. But she still kicks herself over not having my heart checked. Thinks maybe she could have prevented this from happening to me if she had pushed more.

My husband, he just takes it as he comes. He can be quite the baby when he gets sick so I don't think he'd ever not accept help for his problems. I think it scares him, definitely, and it does make him upset to see me go through a major episode, though he tends to remain calm and level-headed. Which is funny, because generally he's moody.

Well, you would think.

My husband is a jewel. He is basically all the support I need.

However, a few years ago my sister (twin) experienced her first migraine. She called me to tell me she was so sorry I was going through this and now "she knows." She even briefly joined...um.....ANOTHER forum we were on. I don't know what happened, but we had a series of fights and during one she accused me of making Katherine sick (her migraines). Huh? Where was all that support and "she knows" business?

And then my mom - I just had to quit talking about my migraines. Everything is about her. If I mention a migraine, oh, she has a bad headache, too. It got to the point where she thought my migraines were "gone." No mom, I just don't talk about them.

My MIL has them and she gets it. Hers are far worse than mine, though, so a lot of the time I'm there for her; and I'm ok with that.

Wow, vent. Whew.

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It must be horrible to watch a loved one go through so much pain.

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Originally posted by DebHOST:
And then my mom - I just had to quit talking about my migraines. Everything is about her. If I mention a migraine, oh, she has a bad headache, too. It got to the point where she thought my migraines were "gone." No mom, I just don't talk about them.

Uggh. Well- I wish your mom was "right" and that they really were gone.

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My MIL has them and she gets it. Hers are far worse than mine, though, so a lot of the time I'm there for her; and I'm ok with that.

Wow, vent. Whew.

It must be nice to have a relative who understands. Well... Not really nice that they have the experience, obviously.

My grandmother had "headaches"... but the family wrote her off as a hypochondriac. I wish I could let her know that "I understand" that she was suffering so, and what the family always used to call "Grandma's headaches" were real and not some hypochondriac musings...

If I had a second wish along that line... I wish that she was still around to see Fibro being validated as a real thing... and not just her "hypochondria acting up again"

Boy do I understand 'bout those "sick headaches" now...

My paternal grandma had "sick headeaches." She lived with my aunt so I've talked to her and my cousin about them. I can't say for sure, but I'm going to bet they were migraines. My genetic connection.

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Boy do I understand 'bout those "sick headaches" now...

Both of my grandmas had migraines which eventually disappeared. The only other immediate family member with them besides me is my twin sister. She very much understands, and is very sympathetic. I just am thankful that hers are milder than mine.

...and I'm still laughing!

We spent the weekend priming walls and ceilings at the other house. Matt painted most of the 3 bedroom ceilings & the top halves of the walls, inc;uding the cut-ins around doors & windows. I did the bottom halves, including cut-ins. Oh, and I did about half the ceiling in my old (VERY large) bedroom.

He ran out of paint about an hour and a half before I did. So, there I was, using an inch and a half wide cut-in brush to paint walls! I was just trying to use up paint - not enough to pour into a tray or back into the can.

Getting into bed last night, he looked at me and said "Aren't you sore?" I said "Yes, but I'm just not saying anything!"

Rebecca