Migraine

Hi. I'm just learning about this site, and have never been on an online community before! I guess it's the fact that it's saturday night and my fiance is suffering from his 3rd migraine this week. I often feel selfish and alone when he is hurting, and try to keep myself occupied in our apartment with my own work. But I think I am finally beginning to admit to myself that he is a sufferer of chronic pain, and that I will need to accept this if we are to have a successful marriage. It is a tough pill to swallow, even though I love him dearly. I am in an early stage of learning to accept this though, and I still get frustrated and want him to make lifestyle changes that will help us enjoy our free time together, which is so precious to begin with. He needs to sleep a lot, and "tune out." Any thoughts/advice/encouragement for the partner/future wife of a migraine sufferer?

Jenny you have come to the right place for information on migraine diesase. I can't really tell how much you know about the disease or how exactly your husband is affected, so I will start you with some basic information.

Understanding Migraines

The community on the formun want you and your husband to undersand migraine disease, it's treatments and how to live with it. It's not always easy, but we do it. I am a single mother of two teanage kids and sometimes I wonder who I got through all of it and worked.

This is some additional information about triggers and migraine diaries. If your husband hasn't done this, it's an excellent way to start looking at what can be triggering his migraines, food, lack of sleep (a big one for me), certain types of weather. There are many things that can be migraine triggers.

Migraine Triggers.

I hope this information is helpful to you. There are many husbands, wifes, boyfriends, girlfriends, parents, etc of migraine sufferes on the forums. We welcome you with open arms. There are many times I could not have gotten through an attach without the help of my DBF, or kids. You all are wonderful people. The more you understand the better all around. Keep asking questions. Go to your husbands appointments with him and talk.

Take care,

Cindy

Hi Jenny! I'd like to give you and your fiance' a warm welcome to the forum

My DH (devoted husband) was also new to my "migraine world" not so long ago. It was a frustrating road for him until he and I sat down and really talked about what I go through with migraine disease. We actually have a great article to help you understand:

Migraine and Headache Education for Those Who "Don't Get It"

There are over 100 medications that can be used for Migraine prevention:

Migraine preventative medications: too many options to give up!

The best person to help your fiance' is a Migraine and Headache Specialist. I began seeing one in January and already see an improvement in the duration and intensity of my migraines.

Again, welome to the forum and if you have any questions, please feel free to ask! I look forward to seeing you both on the forum!

Hi Jenny!

Looks like you already got some great links!

I just wanted to say how happy I am that you are here to help support your fiance! You really don't know how much it means to us migrainuers when someone who maybe doesn't experience migraine, wants to really learn about it and help us out.

For that, I am thankful.

Look around, ask questions.....if you and your fiance don't already have Living Well with Migraine Disease and Headaches by Teri Robert I highly recommend it. It's full of info, and personal experience. It has become the "bible" for many of us, since it is so well written and filled with everything you would need to know about migraine.

Look forward to seeing you around!

I'm late chiming in, but welcome!

You're a great GF for wanting to learn about migraines. They say that if you have 2 or more migraines a month, you're a good candidate for daily preventives. It sounds like your poor BF is a good candidate and would benefit greatly from the right preventive.

There are a few meds that are FDA-approved for migraine prevention, but there are many drugs that are used "off-label" successfully. As a matter of fact, all 4 of my preventives are being used off-label. It's legal and ethical.

As far as accepting the migraines, it's hard to explain. It is as hard for me to accept it as it is for my husband. However, I first went to the doctor for my head when we'd been dating for 4 months. He married me anyway, 9 months later. That was in 1980, and he's been with me every step of the way for more than 27 years.

You're obviously very much in love, to be worrying about how to handle your BF's disease emotionally. Keep coming here. You'll learn a lot and meet a lot of caring, knowledgeable people.

Gretchen in Mississippi

Hi Jenny,

What a great GF you are Others have given you some great links, so for now, I just want to send you a warm welcome to the forum
. I look forward to seeing you on future posts .

Dar

Hi Jenny,

I am Dar's husband (from above). Being with someone with who has migraines is not an easy task.But through knowledge of the disease and understanding it becomes easier and easier to help your partner. I know at times, it can becomes very frustrating because you want to help the person you love and there is nothing you feel you can do. But sometimes just being there and supporting them is the best medicine.

See you on forum

Bill

Hi, Jenny, welcome to the forum!