Migraine

Just need to vent big time!! I spent from 9:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. today watching a wonderful teacher being walked all over by some inconsiderate, selfish, and rude family. Why is it that some people are so selfish and unable to tell their children no! Why is it some people want to make excuses for their lack of discipline of their child? Why are kids given endless hours of freetime and not expected to go to school. If I hear one more parent who really can care less about there child's education because they don't make their kid do their homework blame the school system I'll scream.

Permissive lacksidasical parents make it harder for kids with real special needs to get the help they need! My son struggles to achieve something everyday because of medical issues. He tires so easily, he has had to relearn so many things. I have been there for four years, actively teaching and battling with him to make sure he has an education.

My background on this vent is this:

My son has Asperger Syndrome,ADHD, and nonverbal learning disorder. He doesn't handle large groups. Our school district has a unique program combining homeschooling and public education. Kids in K-12 go to school half the day at the school, and the other half they do at home with their parents.

Parents write lesson plans, and teach the home half. Parents report grades and turn in work to a licensed teacher/adminstrator. In return the school gives state credit to the students for their attendance. The half a day at school also has parents teaching from state approved materials small workshops--supervised by the adminstrator.

It is a combination of the best of public school and homeschooling. For my son it is ideal. He has socialization with all ages of kids, but the groups are small.

Alot of effort is required by parents, they are required to put in 6 hours of time for the good of the program. If they will do that then everyone benefits--especially their child. This program more than any other thing has let me see the difference between real learning difficulties, and selfish people who really should have had their parental rights abolished!

I have watched so many kids fall through the cracks and into a life of mediocrity because their parents really can careless about them.

A program like this is so ideal for so many kids, but their parents really don't care about them!!!

I wish I knew why some parents these days are afraid to use the word NO. Discipline has fallen by the way side and I'm not sure why. You're not alone, it drives me crazy to say the least.

But, with great parents like you, there is still hope out there for our kids' future. So, thank you on a job well done with your son.

Watching people parent often feels like this.....

Hi mlhrail,

Before my kids were born, I worked with children with developmental disabilities. My "specialty" was kids with Pervasive Developmental Disorder, Autism, and Asperger's Syndrome...

Many parents just don't realize how much effort they need to put in to raise a child--particularly one with special needs!

I think the biggest difficulty with helping kids with Asperger's Syndrome is that many people just don't understand the diagnosis...They are aware that their children are "different," but they keep fighting and fighting to make them fit a mold that just doesn't work!

Good teachers have a special gift! It's always difficult to see them receiving abuse from parents who aren't doing their part. Just let the teacher know how much you appreciate him/her and all that is being done for your child...

Your family is very fortunate to have a Mom like you! (So many kids today just don't have ANYONE who cares!!)

jenny

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It's a shame that there's not some kind of responsibility test for prospective parents. [Of course, that would be impossible in this country!] You wonder why parents choose this kind of school if they're not willing to put in the work.

You're doing the right thing for your son. And gripe away here. That's what we're for.

Gretchen in Mississippi

You are one of the special parents and thank God for you. Unfortunately, it seems that more and more of the time, parents have become so apathetic toward their children. They don't seem to care anymore about the necessities of children growing up responsible, with good values, AND educated.

I'm so glad that there are parents like you around still, who care, and who do what is best for their children, and who defend the teachers who are so dedicated to the same things. We all know teachers sure don't teach for the money, or the glory either.

Vent all you want. Those of us who worked hard to raise our kids right and who do care about our kids are right there with you and will "have your back"!