Migraine

Where to start - sometimes I think I'm just up to my eyeballs in stress and there's no let up - two hours later I'm feeling positive again. I don't know if this should go in off-topic because it's not just about Migraine, but Migraine certainly figures into it. I'm so glad you guys are here - on the other hand I don't want you to see me down - on the other hand I know it's healthy to share.

Sinus infection - day 3
hair-trigger for Migraine
Stress over money
stress over D finding new job
fiercely independent 17 y/o
classic ADHD 13 y/o who can't get to sleep at night or up in the morning
D coping with everything while I'm sick
broken dryer
people having arguments & upsets
I need to be well and have positive outlook to keep building my new business ventures, and support D and help the kids and help everyone get along and I feel awful and like I can't cope.

I feel like pulling my hair out but I know then I'll just have all these other problems and be bald.

- Megs

Megs--

I'm sorry!!!!!

I'm doing well this week so try to dump at least half your worries on me. I can be your designated worrier!!!!! I do that a lot for people--I never mind being the designated blamee, dofuss, whatever!

Don't pull your hair out tho--wigs can be a real pain--literally. I used to wear one in my gorgeous bod days when I was a professional belly dancer and the wig used to give me a headache (I didn't know they were migraines then).

I'll be thinking especially of you all day--trying to share a little of your pain.

Tracie

Megs,

Please don't start pulling your hair out. I really don't think the bald look would be good for you...

First, you sure sound like you could use a . OK, maybe a few: .

You should always come here when you're feeling down! Remember, we're very good at sharing support and we give those terrific cyber-hugs!

I know it sometimes feels like the stresses are just piling up higher and higher...But you can't tackle that list all at once! Maybe for a while you could try to "choose your battles" (as my Mom always reminded me to do!). One thing at a time, wherever possible...

And also, you're feeling really sick right now! Things always seem more complicated and hectic to me when I'm sick. You've got to take good care of yourself right now! Get a lot of rest and try (as much as possible) to let go of all of the other stuff. It'll be easier to handle your worries when you're feeling better!

I'll be thinking of you today!
jenny

Megs,

A family is here for good times and bad. What kind of family would we be if we couldn't be here for you when you need a hug? Seriously. You give so much warmth and love to the community- make sure that you take some when needed.

I can't type much today, and I wish I could. But just know that I'm thinking of you, and sending happy anti-stress vibes your way!

Big hugs,

My brain is mush right now -

Just wanted to let you know I feel ya on all of that!

Money - UGH!

Job searching - UGH again!!!!

Hang in there!!! It HAS to get better right???!!???

Megs, you can't take all of this on on your own, especially when you're sick.

Supporting your dh in his job search, ok, that's a must. We've been there done that (too many times). Amazingly, the money seems to be there.

Lay down some ground rules for the 17 y/o and stick to them. Independence is good, but while she's in your house, your rules rule.

Look into something to help your son sleep.

Have a talk with everyone about what you just told us.

Hang in there.

Hi all -

I love you. Thanks for listening and all the great support and love and ideas. You're the best family a gal could have. I still feel like pond scum physically but better emotionally. Had a really good talk with Rachel who is taking on helping out in the mornings - she can often motivate her brother when no one else can and I think it will be a good responsibility for her.

Deb it's not so much that she resists the rules as that she wants to get things done in her own time - which is ADHD time, e.g. when she gets to it, e.g. not in this century. She is so not the center of any of the difficulties, it's just that she butts heads with us, and she and her father are so stubborn and get in yelling matches and then I worry... still looking for that surgeon who performs the worryectomies. Worry is not good for me!

Anyway, everyone is cooled down, dryer repair is scheduled, Adam's DS is confiscated for the near future (he was playing it in bed at 12:30 last night!), I got the kitchen mostly cleaned up before laying back down, and it's onward and upward.

Megs

AWW Megs I know how you feel! Im glad you can come vent to us here! Thats what we are here for! Goodness knows you are here for all of us when we need to!

First off, hope you get rid of that nasty sinus infection sooon! no fun being sick. I will be prayin ya get better with it.

Next, I totally understand the teens thing! ARGGG! Children can be quite frustrating at times. Take 3 deeeep breaths, go in a quiet room... scream into pillow... Tee hee.

Seriously, I do hope things improve today! I like your idea of having your daughter help your son! That is great she is able to help motivate him.

Lots O
Tawsha

Hi Megs,


Awwww Megs, first of all here are some non-stressfull, non-germy hugs




If you ever find that surgeon who perfoms the worrectomies, let me know and I will make an appt. with you!! Seriously, I know that it can be so hard sometimes when things pile up one worry on top of the other. And being sick makes things ten times harder.

And I get the whole teen thing, Nicole and I butted heads when she was 17 and 18. Awww, the joys of parenting. I just keep telling myself, boy I raising a "very independant, self-reliant, assertive woman" LOL

I think that is great that you got Rachel to help out your son in the morning. Hang in there, I am glad you came here to vent!! You are an amazing person and an amazing mom. Just remember that!! Remember, to take time for yourself!!

Dar

One really big deep breath at a time Megs.. Lori

Deb is right! And one thing at a time! Good to know you're getting things rolling. I hope everything comes together with no hiccups!

Hi Megs,

Oh those worry lists do go on some days don't they?

In my opinion, teenagers at 17 and 18 are having a hard time with the whole "independence" thing. They think they are so grown up and know everything, and we simply don't. But deep down I think there is inner turmoil going on about the seperation about to take place. The unknown is a scary thing. College is an unknown, a new job is an unknown, and leaving the family is certainly a huge unknown.

Just my two cents, of course .

Nancy I think that's very wise. A friend of mine whose youngest just went to college and oldest just graduated college (exactly 5 years ahead of my two) said "oh yeah, she's got to kill you off now so she can stand to leave you in a year and a half." Which makes sense and gave me a chuckle but it still doesn't feel good to be killed off!

When I was Rachel's age I was in boarding school so I did my rebelling against teachers and school administration who I didn't care about so much, and mostly enjoyed my time with my parents when I was home. Whether that was good or bad in the long run I can't say. I also took more of my anger, etc. out on myself - I am sure it's way healthier for Rachel to take it out on us and not be self-destructive.

All that said, I had a lovely couple of hours with her last night. Most of the time she's quite delightful.

Update - I'm still sick with sinus but getting some better and mood improved immensely. Thanks for all your love and support!

- Megs

Hi Megs,

I think you and Nancy are exactly right!

I very clearly remember thinking my Mom and Dad were the dumbest, most embarrassing people in the world when I was about 16. I also remember complaining about them to my friends and saying I couldn't wait to go away to college to get away from them!

You've got something to look forward to, though...As I got older, my parents sure got a lot smarter! When I was about 25 I realized that they were possibly the smartest people I'd ever known! (See--if you can just be patient for about 10 years or so, you'll become geniuses!)

My older son (age 7) is going through something similar, but at a much earlier developmental stage. He's getting much closer to his Dad, wanting to be just like him, do the things he does, etc. The world no longer revolves around Mommy. In fact, he has decided that I don't know much about anything. He'll tell me, "I have an important question, but you won't ever know the answer to it. I have to wait til Daddy gets home." That's me. Dumb as a rock. (I've got 6 more years of college than Daddy, but I'm still not bright enough to answer a 7-year-old's question.) Gee, if I'm this dumb now, I wonder how he'll feel about me in 10 years??

Hang in there. Your teenagers will remember that you were there for them--that's really important.

jenny

Megs,
I've just been going back through folders catching up on topics and this caught my eye. Your subjects with your family always hit home with me as your daughter is the same age as my Piper. She is going off to college and September. I am ususally on pins and needles around her to judge her mood before I say too much. She's not one to argue much, just sulk and use a nasty tone of voice. She saves the arguing for her dad's house.

I had to smile at Jenny's post as I've had many people tell me around 25 our daughters will become our best friends again, more on a full time basis. Rachel sounds like she is some of the time.

We have to remember to count our blessing with the kids even with the rebellion that they are good kids. I've not seen you post stuff about bad friends and influences with your kids. They are spreading their wings and it is tough.

Yes, remember to breath deep and count to 10. I also have been know just to walk out of the room sometimes. The battle just isn't worth fighting.

My ex and I had a niece live with us and nanny for us when the kids were little and I traveled. She is now our third child. The two of them used to go at it with each other. Both are so strong willed. Interesting though that she needed to do that with him and have him still be there for her. She really needed to see what unconditional love really meant from a father figure. And I swear after awhile they just both enjoyed pushing each other's buttons. Have to wonder about Rachel and her Dad. I walked out of the room and let them have their spats.

Are you feeling better? Are your sinuses clearing up? I'd be wanting to take up residency in the shower. No practical, but comfortable.

Cindy