Migraine

My boyfriend is studying for his architecture exams - or "archi-torture" exams as we call them here in CA, and I've been having an increase in my migraines. I feel bad interrupting his studying or work day with needing help with my migraines. He is understanding and helpful, but there is only so far I can push him. Plus he just doesn't have any extra time and energy right now.

Any advice?

I don't think there are easy answers here. In our relationships with anyone, we all tend to feel like we might be burdening someone from time to time. I think the best thing would be to sit down together and explore the issue and lay down some ground rules on how you want to manage this as a team. Honesty is the most important part in this. There just isn't a set answer for this kind of thing because our needs vary from person to person.

Hi,
I thought I would throw in my 2 cents here. One thing I've had to do living alone and when my kids were younger is just plan ahead, leave medications next to my bed with water so if I need them, they are there; keep stuff in bathroom that I'd need if I'm throwing up; have a large supply of ice packs in the freezer; make sure I've stocked up on migraine friendly food when I feel good.

These kind of things can help you with you DBF as he studies so you don't need the help getting things as much. You'll need his comfort, but not as much of his time getting stuff.

Droolie is right on about the honesty in any relationship when dealing with problem issues. And migraines are a problem!!!

Good luck and take care,

Cindy

Thanks you two - I appreciate it....

I live by myself and do pretty much everything that Cindy said. I also make sure to carry meds in my purse and water bottle, and keep some polarized sunglasses in the car. Oh, a really nice dark sleep mask by the bed too. The one I have is like a bean bag, you can put it in the freezer if you want it cold.

It is nice to have someone to take care of you though. Occassionally, my boyfriend or Mom will come over to make sure that I rest and eat.

Do you have any family or friends you can call while you boyfriend studies?

My mom helps out a bit, but one of my sisters is having a crisis now too, and since she has children, she ends up taking priority over me. Still, you're right. I feel lucky to have any help.

One thing you could offer your boyfriend when you talk is the use of the Significant Others Only folder. He might not want to do that until a less pressured time, but when he's ready, he could email Teri for access to that folder. We hosts are not allowed in there; only significant others, Teri, and Nancy. Something to think about.

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Originally posted by dragondroolHOST:
I think the best thing would be to sit down together and explore the issue and lay down some ground rules on how you want to manage this as a team.

What would we all do without Droolie? She has the right idea.

But I'll throw in my two cents. I live alone and have to take care of myself during my migraine attacks. Cindy is right that the key is to be prepared. I always make sure I have my "toolbox" full and that what I need to get through an attack is close by.

I'm sure you all would get along just fine. Your adventure would just be a bit less quirky, that's all.

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Originally posted by Katinthecorner:

What would we all do without Droolie?