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Apprentice |
My son's hernia surgery is coming up. I've been doing pretty good about it, but find I keep having bouts of nervousness. It is set for the first Friday in December. Does anyone have any experience with this? Any ideas on making him more comfortable?
He also has a football banquet two days later which he really wants to go to. I'll do whatever he feels up to. I just don't see him staying too long, but don't want to put those negative thoughts into his head either. |
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Wizard |
Usually the anticipation of surgery is worse than the surgery itself. You can try telling your son that but he may not believe you.
Otherwise, good luck to your son. Deb [url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]  |
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Forum Moderator Supreme Guru  |
I really have no experience here. I remember my brother-in-law having hernia surgery maybe ten years ago, but not much of the after stuff, other than he was pretty sore for a while and not much up to going anywhere for a few days after. I know that around here you always have a pre-surgical appointment the day before the surgery to address what to expect, do the admissions paperwork, and the like. If your son has one of those, it would be an excellent time to bring up these questions. I'm sure that the intake nurses and staff are very used to being asked such things.
 Dragondrool Forum Moderator ~~8=:>>>> |
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Forum Moderator Grand Wizard  |
One thing I do advise, assuming you plan to be in the surgical waiting room during the surgery. Don't wait alone! Have a family member, friend, clergy, neighbor, or as a last resort, worst enemy with you. By all means take a book or something you enjoy doing to help you occupy the time, but the presence of a support person means more than you can probably anticipate.
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I don't know much about this,either - sorry. But it looks like you have gotten some good advice here.
I think you should go over all of this with his doctor before the surgery - like what to expect afterwards, and how to make him the most comfortable. I also agree with nutcracker, that you should have someone with you to wait. This will make the time go much faster. Just remember we are here for you. I don't know where you are located, your state is not listed in your profile. But if you need someone to wait with you, get in touch with Teri and she could maybe put you in touch with some of us if we are near you. Good luck and keep us posted. Sherry Sherry "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." ~ Plato c. 427-347B.C. |
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Apprentice |
Thank you for all of the support. I just realized one of the reasons I keep getting nervous about this. About two yrs ago, he went to the ER at this hospital to get a small football injury taken care of. Well, they didn't clean it well enough and the broadband antibiotics weren't right either. It ended up getting very infected and he needed to get it operated on to clean it all out. The difference then, is that we had no time time to anticipate the surgery. It was, the surgery is scheduled for tomorrow period. I think I liked that better.
Well anyway, I guess because it is the same hospital, I am a little more apprehensive. I know it's not the same atmosphere as the ER was and I'm sure he'll get the right antibiotics this time, but I still can't wait until it's over. His pre-op workup is scheduled for this Wednesday at the hospital. It's a good idea to ask all the questions we can then, but it also helps to know what to expect from others. You guys always have great suggestions and answers. I'll get someone to come with me. If it's a bad head day, I like the idea of bringing my worst enemy. I don't know if I'd want anyone to be around me that I like and I have to be there with him. He's got a very big football game coming up this weekend, so that's been able to distract him a little from all of this. Hopefully, he'll be able to concentrate on the game when they play on Sunday and won't be thinking about any of this. His surgery will be the Friday after this big game. Thanks again for all of your input, suggestions and support. Pam |
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Forum Moderator Grand Wizard  |
Adding more support to the pile, and some hugs for you!
{{{{{Pam}}}}}  As always, this place is family, and of course, we pull for each other and wish nothing but the best for you, your son, and all involved. Keep us posted, okay? Feel free to vent or use us as a sounding board- that's what this family is here for- support, knowledge, and helping each other through tough times.  ,Jamie Jamie Forum Moderator |
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Community Manager Supreme Guru  |
Hi Pam,
When our son had his tonsils and adenoids out (he was 9 yrs old) the calmer I seemed to be the better off he was. I answered all his questions, more information for him is key, and he felt better about it. If I started to get "worked up" about the surgery he felt it, and I could see him getting nervous. So I guess by best suggestions are: stay as calm as possible, have all your questions answered before the surgery, try to carry on as usual and not focus on the upcoming surgery but the exciting football game.... how does that sound. I know tonsil and adenoid surgery isn't the same thing as your son's operation, but maybe the same thoughts can apply. What do you think?
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Forum Moderator Supreme Guru |
I think it's natural to feel a little skittish when you've already had one off experience at the same hospital.
You could always do like I do when something like that happens. I just remind myself that I've already had the bad go at things, so that it's over and done with, and the new trip can't help but go swimmingly in comparison.  Another nice thing your son has going for him is that he's young, and we all know how the saying goes ~ the young are more resilient. I'm sure he'll bounce back from this surgery just fine. ((((( Hugs and good vibes for you all ))))) Dragondrool Forum Moderator ~~8=:>>>> |
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Apprentice |
I think I've been able to stay calm in front of him because I know that is what he needs and that is what is best for him. I've talked to him about things that I have read and showed him some pictures (that weren't embarrassing). I think that helped him understand some of what is going on too. I usually get anxious when he is not around me. The football game has been the best thing for him to take his mind off of it and the timing of it is great.
He has a good attitude. He's really looking forward to not having to rake any more leaves or shoveling any more snow! I don't think he could have planned this any better!! So these are all things I can play up with him if needed. Thanks for the reminders. We've already had one snow storm so he's excited about the prospect of enjoying the cold snow and not having to clear it away. I can go with the we've already had our bad experience with this hospital so now we're due for the good. That should work. Plus we know the doctor we are dealing with which makes a big difference too. I'm banking on the young card also and keeping my fingers crossed. Thanks for the support and hugs. Pam |
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Community Manager Supreme Guru |
Sounds like you have everything under control. I totally understand keeping our kids calm, and then not so much with ourselves
 . I guess as long as they don't see it we are all set!We are here for you to support you all the way. Moms need every bit they can get! |
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Apprentice |
Everything went good with the pre-op workup stuff today and even his blood pressure was great. We were a little concerned about that. They did draw blood so we should get those results back soon. So everything looks like it's ready so far for the surgery.
However, he did hurt his knee in practice today. Not too bad, but the big game is on Sunday. The thing about the game is that they are playing it inside of Giants Stadium so you can see why this is such a huge distraction from the surgery. He has been icing it a lot, but he was so bummed tonight. We’re hoping its much better tomorrow and definitely for the game. He has had a good season; just a rocky start because of the stuff with his physical (hernia and blood pressure) and hopefully he’ll have a very good ending with being able to play before his surgery. It just doesn't seem to stop. |
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Community Manager Supreme Guru |
Hi angelb,
I know what you mean about the never ending "stuff" that seems to go on with our lives. Hang in there and tell your son good luck in his game! |
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Forum Moderator Guru  |
Please add my support too. Having two teenage boys it seems the hospital should have reserved parking for the entire family by now.
Heck, I was nervous about my 16 y/o being put under for wisdom teeth. So was he, in fact, so much so, they gave him a valium to go to bed with and one before surgery, then the "gas mask" and then complete knock out. I asked about my valium for the days after...they laughed. Although, that being said, it turned out perfectly and we got pictures and video per his nagging (he was still pretty loopy from being under and wouldn't let it go). Now, he wishes he had because he ended up sending the pics to his friends while he was still feeling no pain. How he figured out his phone is beyond me. But, all in all, it ended up just fine. Now if I could get him the confidence he needs to get on a "real" road to drive!! All my best for you and your son!! Laura Forum Moderator ***You're welcome to enter your birthday, etc in the Celebrate folder so we can party with you!! =) ***  |
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Forum Moderator Grand Wizard |
Laura, I have to tell you that I waited until my senior year in high school to take drivers' ed and learn to drive. In fact, I'd been insisting I would never learn to drive at all, but I finally relented. My reasons for that choice may not have been the healthiest. But I have to say that if I had it to do over again, I would again wait to learn. I took a maturity to the task I would not have had even two years earlier. Everyone I've ever known that waited to learn to drive has wound up as a fantastic driver. Good driving is a matter of maturity and attitude.
angelb, I'm still thinking of you as you prepare for your son's surgery. Nutcracker Forum moderator |
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