Migraine

I started a "discussion" with my husband the other night that turned into a conversation about how I am irresponsible and fall asleep and forget to set the alarm, and how he is always doing everything with the kids(not true) and I told him how I felt he had been degrading me lately and upsetting me when I am sick......I ended up being so upset I left and went to my parents house. I composed a letter with my feelings and emailed them to him, along with a list of expectations I expect from him as my husband and asked that he do the same and told him we NEED counseling. He did not reciprocate the list and when I got back from my moms I cannot tell if he is so hip on the counseling idea....WHY, probably? It costs money. I am already breaking the bank at the headache clinic. I am sick (not just "sick"). We both agree that we love each other but things are not the same. I don't know what step to take next to save this marriage.
Thanks for listening
Kristin

Might there be counseling available at a sliding-scale agency in your area? It sounds as though it's something you really do need.

Would your husband be willing to use the Significant Others Only folder on this forum?

Take care.

Greetings Kristin,
first of all huge hugs to you. Dealing with constant pain is hard enough without having to feel belittled also. No matter what is said please do remember that this is not your fault! No one chooses to be in the pain/side effects that migraine disease brings to our lives but unfortunately so many folks don't understand unless they are in the same boat.

I agree with Nutcracker. Most communities have some sort of counseling that is low cost or on a sliding scale. Even if hubby doesn't embrace the idea at first, you can still seek out these options for your self. This would give you another tool to use against the beasties and support to help you talk to DH about what you are going through .

/hugs and peaceful thoughts,
Julie

Kristin,

I'm so sorry you are having to go through all of this without the loving support of your husband.

Through your and your husband's employer do you have access to an Employee Assistance Program? If you do, call them. You can usually get 3-5 free counseling visit per year for a problem. They can usually get you in fairly quickly too.

If your husband will not go, go yourself. Learning how to express feelings and deal with a chronic illness will help you deal more effectively with your husband, even if he will not go.

Take care,
Cindy