Migraine

My older cousin is very sick. She has a brain tumor. It was just discovered in December I think and she has declined very, very fast.

The tumor grew at an extreemly fast rate and is inoperable. She just turned 55 last week.

She was just transferred from the hospital over to compassionate care and is only receiving nutrition at this point.

One of the doctors wanted to continue radiation, all the others said no.

She has a DNR in place.

I just can't believe this is happening. She is my cooler older cousin. I just hung out with her over the summer and she was her cool, fun loving sarcastic self. Now she only has days left they think.

I am not much one on prayer, but if you would be so kind as to send some happy thoughts my family's way - it would be greatly appriciated.

Thank you.

Oh, Eileen!



Thinking thoughts of you and your family right now...

jenny

Eileen,

Oh my dear, I'm so sorry.

I'm sending you hugs and love and thinking of you and your family.



Kelly

Aww, Eileen, I am sending you lots and lots of thoughts for you and your family. And know that your forum family all loves you!

Eileen - that is so hard - I'm so sorry! Sending you all the warm energy and comfort I can, for you and your family.



- megs

I'm so sorry. All my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

It is a really hard thing to come so sudden.

Cancer is pretty common in my family and it's devistating every time.

Laurelin

All my good wishes and prayers to you, your cousin, and the rest of your family.

Gretchen in Mississippi

I'm so sorry, Eileen.

You definitely have mine, Eileen, along with mega hugs, too. A couple of years ago my grandma was stolen from us by a viscious, aggressive brain tumor. It's the hardest thing I've ever gone through in my life, watching her suffer from that. It just is heartbreaking. You all shall have all the happy thoughts I can muster for you.

Thank you all! I hadn't said anything earlier because I didn't quite know how to deal with it. It's very difficult. I have not told many people. Only my family knows and my boss, and now you guys.

It makes it harder because DH and I were discussing the fact that obviously a funerul is impending....I mean it's going to happen, even if it is a miracle and not right away. But he is still dealing with his younger sisters death and has not been to a funeral since that. I told him he wouldn't have to go with me. I guess I feel like I'm protecting him. It's a lot to deal with for me now. I still feel like I tip-toe around the death issue sometimes with him because of his sister (she was 18 and her death was suspicious and still the reason is unknown). So it has been hard on him.

Maybe I'm protecting him from things I shouldn't, but I will have all of my family there, and I am o.k. with that. Not that him being there wouldn't be "nice" but I understand. No one wants to go to a funeral - heck I don't even want to go, but it's the right thing to do when the time comes.

Now I'm rambling. My head hurts. I feel a ticker reset coming on. I'm going to try and ward it off.

thanks for listening to my ramble. I really appriciate it.

Eileen, I'm glad that you feel you can share this sort of news with us. (Sorry if that sounds weird - I just mean I'm glad you feel that comfortable with us to share something so personal.) This must be difficult for you, and I'm glad we can help you through it.

I'm sure whatever you decide about bringing DH to the funeral or not will be the right decision for you both.

Know that all of us are here for you and thinking of you. I'm sending you my best thoughts and lots and lots of hugs.

I am so sorry Eileen. Sending tons of good vibes your way.

Eileen,
Sending you and yours lots of hugs
Dar

Even more gobs of hugs, Eileen. Issues like this can sometimes be so much more draining than we realize at first. Be good to yourself.

There's no one right way to grieve. You and your husband must make your own decisions about how to grieve; don't let anyone stand in judgment on you. I believe you and your husband will know what you need when the time comes.

Take care of yourselves, and trust your own sense of what you need. We'll support you through this as best we can.