Migraine

I have these next door neighbors that are just so disrespectful. The daughter has cussed me out and used filty language. Tonight I don't know what was going on but the mother's date who had been drinking came up to my front door. I called the police because I had never seen him before and I know they were up to something. It's a long story that I won't go into here but I would like to ask for prayer for protection. I don't trust them. All the stress makes my migraines so much worse and they had just gotten better. I will be up all night tonight. It's so childish, they do all sorts of things, just to harras me, and they know I am sick. I've lived next door to this for many, many years and have tried to turn the other cheek. Tonight the police said that was the problem, that I needed to address the situation. THe police have been called before.
Please pray that they will just move. They are renters. And that my migraines will not get worse because of this stress. Thank you.
parisbabe

Parisbabe,

What a nasty situation you find yourself in. I do understand how un-nerving things like that can be. I've lived alone for many years when my children were young and it's tough to be assertive with people like that.

I like the idea of them moving too. Remember we are always here. Sometimes writing things out can help ease your mind. Can the police help you work out a way to deal with these people? Or do you have any other neighbors who might work with you?

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Parisbabe,

I'm so sorry you're stuck living next to such horrible people. I have a set of neighbors I'd be happy to see leave but for other, less volatile reasons. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully they'll either leave you alone and in peace or just leave.

Hugs,

Hi parisbabe,

I hope everything is ok, and I'm thinking about you.

Parisbabe,
They WILL move. "Ah has spoken!" (to quote Granny from L'il Abner.)

Seriously, we had some awful neighbors next door, too. The granddaughter and her boyfriend and a male friend of theirs were caring for the grandmother. The grandmother died. The kids stayed on.

The son who actually owned the house didn't want it (imagine not wanting a house on a huge lot on deep water?) It took about 3 years to get everybody moved out.

Meanwhile, there were VERY vocal arguments and cars racing in and out of the driveway, both occuring right on our property line. The noise continued into the wee hours of the morning.

Now, it's so peaceful over there. I miss the one couple who didn't argue (the granddaughter and her beau), and the dogs. I don't miss the drunken arguers.

Your neighbors will move. We'll all just concentrate on it, and they'll move. I'm picturing a moving van pulling up tomorrow, since it's the end of the month.

Rebecca, The Island Mama

Praying for you, parisbabe! Rebecca said things just right--they WILL move!

jenny

Thanks to you all for your prayers!!! I appreciate it SO much!!!

I have lived with this for so long! The original owners were there for 10 years!! I prayed & prayed for them to move. And they did, but they rented the house!!! Birds of a feather flock together cause the owners are friends with the renters. All their kids are friends with each other. That is the problem. But I really am shocked that this mom would be a part of what went on Sat. night. Oh, well.

I inquired today about security cameras. Too much money. The problem is that I am alone. No husband or boyfriend and they know that. No man to answer to and that DOES make a difference. Cause if I had a man to go over and either talk to the husband or the teenagers, it would make them sit up & take notice.

They take advantage of me. And this woman knows I am sick. But I have to trust the Lord and know He will provide my protection & strength. Just like David in the Bible.

Rebecca-you crack me up!!! I love your attitude! I so hope your prediction comes true!!!

Thanks again for your support and concern, ladies!!
parisbabe
Pam

Pam - you have my prayers, too, for sure. I had a horrid dirty old man neighbor for a long time and I would keep all the shades pulled on that side of the house and practically get a Migraine just thinking about him!

I do want to encourage you to call the police. The more you make a record of their bad behavior, the more they will know they can't push you around, and also make a record of disturbances that might help in pushing them out of there. Good to have law enforcement aware and looking out for you, too!

- Megan

I completely lost it today and in a coffee shop with my mom! She was helpless and had no idea what to do. I think she was embarrassed I was weeping so uncontrollably & mumbling. The waitress came over and asked if she could do anything. When my mother said I had migraines, she said she used to have those and understood my pain. She really was sweet and understanding. I could tell from her words that she HAD been there!!!

What set me off? This neighbor thing. It has gotten to me more than I thought. I have another incident in my past that was 30 yrs. ago so this has caused PTSD. And I don't want to tell my mom as she is 87 & I don't want to worry her. But I realize I have to go talk to someone. I've been sleeping on the couch and NOT sleeping at all. Too scared to fall asleep. This can't go on.

Maybe it's the hormones I'm on and the fact that the progesterone has been raised. Maybe that is making me so sensitive and weepy. I just can't seem to shake the fear. It's not like me! I need to find a job too. When I was so sick at beginning at summer, all I did was stay in bed & sleep, but now that I am feeling better, I need to get out and just hanging around the house is not good.

I did talk to a police officer Sunday at my church and he told me some things that helped.

Then the final straw today was going back into my mother's house and there is still something in it that gives me migraines. Whether it's mold or dog dander or still moth ball residue even though those have been gone for awhile;something in that house causes my eyes to water and head to immediately hurt from the time I open the door.

My sister was supposed to have the house & rugs cleaned because it was her dog that stayed in the house, but she is not going to do that now. My mom is 87 and not in great health and it's a bad situation.

So, I would like to ask for prayer for all of this!!! They say you don't qualify for a miracle until ONLY God can help you, well, I qualify then!!! My sister could help but that's another story. And prayer request.

parisbabe
Pam

Pam,


I'm so sorry you are having such a difficult time with your neighbors and with your mom's house. Thankfully, I have a warrm fuzzy child to comfot me - hope you have something like that in your life!!

One of my favorite passages is " Fear not for I have redeemed you. I have called you by name - You are Mine! When you pass through the waters, I will be with you and the rivers will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned and the flame will not consume you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy one of Israel, your savior. . . You are precious in my eyes and honored and I love you. . . . Fear not for I am with you!!!

You are walking througth a humongous flood/fire, but I'm praying that the above will be true for you!!

Cyb

,
THANKS!!! SO MUCH!!! I realized after my meltdown that I have to get a handle on the situation.

Today, my doctor said that the progesterone cream would help with the anxiety better than the pills, so we changed my prescription. I'll pick that up tomorrow. My hormones are all messed up.

I spoke with my sister yesterday & she agreed to have mom's house cleaned & help out. And my mom agreed to that. That is part of the problem. But today, my mom was changing her mind. This is what SHE does. But she did have the couch cleaned today so that is a start. That will hopefully get rid of some of the smell.

I did have dogs. 3 cocker spaniels. They were my kids!!! But one by one they passed and I don't know if I want to go thru that again. What kind do you have? They are such great company, I know. And I have seriously thought of getting another one. I think I will know when the time is right. Just not now.

Thank you for the scripture!!! If the Lord be for me, who can be against me. And whom shall I fear!!! I just need to remember the promises of the Lord!! No weapon formed against me can prosper!!!

Overcome evil with good...I'm trying.
parisbabe
Pam

Pam,
I have a standard poodle who is trained as a therapy dog so she goes to work with me everyday. I wanted a big dog but have horrible allergies, so the standard was the best route for me.

I lost my first standard and thought I was going to die - said I'd never get another one - that I couldn't go through the loss. A very wise elderly friend of mine told me that she wanted me to see the puppies her dog had sired six months prior. There was one that wasn't in the right home and she wanted to know if I would at least keep it over the weekend. HA!!! She knew what would happen!

I fell in love with Marlie and she's now been with me for five years!! I can't imagine never having one!! I'd love to have more than one, but then I wouldn't be able to take her to work, so it's just the two of us!!!

Of course, you probably know that there all kinds of research studies on what pets do for people with anxiety, depression and pain. So my prescription is to find a dog now!!!

God luck with getting your mom's house cleaned!! BTW, while my family knows differently of course, I just tell others that I have asthma from perfumes and scents. For some reason they get that; whereas, migraines frequently got rolled eyes!!

Cyn

Cyn,
I'm seeing Dr. Krusz tomorrow. I guess I should be more excited but I just can't seem to shake the depression I've been in since this neighbor thing happened. I have gotten some more info that is not good.

Anyway, if you would pray for me that this appointment would go well. And that he would come up with a treatment program that would control my migraines & the fragrance issue. So I can get a job and be back out in the public. That is my greatest prayer request.

How are you doing? I hope you are continuing to do well and are feeling great!!!
I will get back with you after my appointment.
parisbabe
Pam

Pam,
I'll be happy to pray for you! I'm so sorry you are having so much difficulty with depression! You may want to talk with him about an anti-depressant.


I'd expect for you to have mixed feelings about going! I know you've probably been through a lot of ups and downs with your migraines and your doctors!

The most important thing to remember is that things don't happen overnight and that he's not going to be able to "cure" your migraines. It's definitely a slow practice.

But he has been able to help me - for the first time in over a year, I was able to attend a family birthday party! And it was even about an hour out of town. While I did have a migraine, it stayed at about a "3" which is just unheard of!

However, it did take time for the medicine to begin to help and I know that it's not a magic bullet!

You will love them!! They are going to make you feel wonderful and at peace, and, best of all, heard!

I'll be praying for you tomorrow!!

Cyn

Cyn,
So glad to hear you are doing well. That is awesome!! I know the feeling when you get to do "normal" things again.

Well, my neighbors are at it again and police had to come right before I went to my appointment with DR.K. I was pretty shaken when I got there. Ended up that I was able to lay down while I waited for him. I didn't have a migraine, just felt like I was going to fall apart!

The doctor's visit was overwhelming to say the least. So much information. My tape recorder wasn't working right so that was a minus. But I took notes. Just the fact that I got to discuss my issues with him was pretty spectacular!! Especially when I had been blown off by the other doctors. And he was impressed with my research knowledge instead of being offended.

My GYN used to say he wished all his patients were like me. Would make his job so much easier. But not all doctors are that self confident. It was nice to see Dr. K is like that,too. We were able to discuss so many treatment options. I am scheduled to have some labs to check out a few things.

Yes, I am going to start on an anti-depressant after this weekend. Have a wedding so don't want to start on any new medicine before that. He upped my Zonegran and I reacted to that with nausea, headache, and smelling a horrible smell, so I wish I had of waited to do that till after the wedding. I feel awful. I put a call in today about that.

I met Jane and Ann, both of them are real sweet. And I like the house atmosphere instead of an office. Very cozy indeed. They have another location which is much closer to my house so I will try and go to that one from now on. He is only there on Thurs. but that's ok. He said they are trying to get that set up for him to be there more days. Gosh, I don't know where he would find the time!!

So, I am very hopeful! And will get more excited once this neighbor thing is under control. The police are involved now so that should help. I refuse to live in fear!
And for the first time in a long time, I am thinking about getting a dog. Maybe that will help with safety issues and emotional ones too.

Thanks for your support and prayers. I will keep you posted.
parisbabe
Pam