Migraine

My 12 year old son Chris is in 7th grade. Yesterday a good friend of his went home with a really bad headache. She died last night suddenly of a brain aneurism.

He was very close to this girl and had 5 classes with her. I picked him up from school, and kept him busy all day. He is doing ok off and on, and seems to be taking it fairly well so far. He is the type of kid though who keeps things bottled up until he explodes though.

Its rough to loose a friend anytime, but especially as a child. Makes life seem so fragile to them. Anyway I appreciate your thoughts and prayers not only for Chris, but this little girls family too.


Tawsha

What an awful thing for your son to go through.

Grief is not a good thing to try to bottle up. You might see if there's a grief support group in your area for people his age. Talking with others going through similar experiences can help a lot. Also, it's possible his school will be setting something up--if so, encourage him to go.

Tawsha, I am so sorry to hear this news. You, your son and your family - as well as the girl's family - will have my thoughts coming your way.

I have to wonder though if this has hit a little too close to home, considering Chris's friend went home with a really bad headache, and you and TJ both suffer from migraines. You may want to have a talk with him - like you said, it's an awful reminder just how fragile life is.

We're here for you, Tawsha. Let us know if there's anything else we can do.

Oh Tawsha I am so sorry for you and most especially your son. My son has gone through the lose of a close friend and like your son he did not do well getting the grief out. I did find, especially if he has friends who were close to her too, they will talk and band together to help each other. Boys don't always talk well, bless them. But they will talk to each other.

MJ has an excellent point about this hitting so close to home with you all having migraines. He may need extra help and guidance from you or a counsler about this.

My heart goes out to you and your family Tawsha. Please let us know if we can help.

Cindy

Aww TY yall. The school did have counsling set up for the kids with grief counsolers. I know that they will be there tomorrow too. Chris didnt want to go to that today. He just wanted to come home. This afternoon he cried in my arms for about 20 min. No talking was needed at the time, he just needed hugs. So I sat there and cried a bit with him. It hurts me when my kids hurt!

MJ, That is a concern that I do want to bring up with him. Especially since he said "she went home yesterday with a bad headache.ummm.migraine.." I do think it may be a worry for him. I will need to find a time to talk to him about it.

I already have him in counseling for other reasons(loong story, but has to do with his birth mom her husband who are verbally and sometimes physically abusive to him on visits) and he happens to have an appt. on Monday. I told Chris to let me know if he wants to talk to his counseler before then.

I lost a friend in highschool, so I can sympathize with Chris, I know what he is going through. He will be ok in time. Also my lil man TJ lost his paternal grandfather when he was 5. he was SO close to his grandpa. Even today he walks around and tells grandpa all about his day. Its hard to watch your kids grieve, but in a way it makes the child stronger too.

Anyway thanks again everyone
Tawsha

Dear Tawsha-My heart goes out to you and your son, truly as a parent it is painful to see your child grieve and at times you feel helpless. I went thru this with my Son, who suffered a loss, two years ago who is now 13 years old. Open communication and lots of hugs and always, Mommy's love!

I am glad to hear the school will be helping out as well.

I am keeping you and his friends' family in my prayers.

Lori

Tawsha,

Many heartfelt prayers for you, your son, and the girl's family. Grief is such a difficult emotion to understand in adults let alone kids. When my first husband passed away, our boys were 3 and 5. Raymond had a hard time getting through it and I put him in counseling. After some time he learned to cope and now, because of it, they both learned to cherish family and friends that much more.

This is going to sound odd, but, I'm relieved that Chris cried with you. It's so healthy that he is feeling his emotions. I will keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers.

All my best to you, take care

I am so sorry. There aren't words to make times like this feel better. We all love you and you are in our thoughts and prayers. Take care.

Tawsha - I'm so sorry that happened. Sending thoughts and prayers for your son, and his friend's family.

My brother lost his best friend to a car accident when he was 14. I don't think anyone really knew anything about helping him deal with the grief at that time, and I think that event contributed to him becoming depressed for many years.

I'm so glad Chris has you so on top of looking out for what he needs emotionally. I agree with Laura - it's good news that he cried, and is able to feel and express his feelings. You are a wonderful mom, and it's hard to see him hurting but you are giving him what he needs. Keep us posted and know we are here to support you.

Megs

How awful for everyone. I'm so sorry.

My prayers and thoughts go out to you, your son and his friends family.

Thinking of you and your family, and of course your friends family as well.

We are here if you need us!

TY so much for all the love and support on here! You all are so wonderful!

Laura, that doesnt seem odd at all! In fact I was very relieved that he did that. He is all boy and hates to show "weakness" in any way, so Im glad he isnt trying to hold it in. I hope he continues. I encouraged him to talk to the grief counselors at school today. I dont know if he will or not though.

I talked with him about the fact TJ and I have migraines, and if he was concerned. He siad he wasnt, and that the girl didnt have a history of migraines that he knew of,that it was just the one bad headache. All in all he is taking it pretty well, and mature.

Thanks again yall!

Tawsha

Tawsha,

My thoughts and prayers go out to Chris, you, your family and the girl's family. To see the pain and sadness in a child's tears makes my heart ache for them. I am so sorry that Chris and everyone has to go through this. My daughter's loss one of their best friends last year and I know how hard this is for everyone, but I also know that you will hold on to one another and get through the pain.

Just know that we are here for you and I'm thinking of you and yours


Dar

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your son, and the girl's family The loss of a child is a grief I just can't imagine.

Valerie

May God tuck all y'all up His sleeve and keep y'all there, close to His heart.

Rebecca