Migraine

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A lot of suppressed anger is involved.

Deb

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Originally posted by Teri Robert:
One of our forum members brought this book to my attention because this passage concerned her:

"Headaches come from invalidating the self . . . Forgive yourself, let it go, and the headache will dissolve back into the nothingness from where it came . . . Migraine headaches are created by people who want to be perfect and who create a lot of pressure on themselves. A lot of suppressed anger is involved..."

Oh, puhleeze!

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The other day, I was in the emergency room, after taking an overdose of one of my medications. I had been demoted from a job that I loved, and I was in a deep state of self-loathing and worthlessness. I could only see the dark side of the work options available to me, and I just wanted to escape into a land of nothingness.

Deb

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Originally posted by nakesnude:
Hello to All,

The example of the minister was a different one from what I have in mind when I suggest to people that they keep their thoughts positive and be open to good things happening. The minister was somehow implying that the man with cancer was not a good enough Christian, and this was why he was not getting better. I absolutely abhor this line of thinking, as it implies that people have to "do good works" to have a spot in heaven and/or to have a good life here on earth. I don't believe that being a good Christian has any bearing on whether or not your cancer will get better or get worse.

Let's take the same example of the man with cancer, only this time he keeps thinking things like, "I will have a positive outcome"; "I can alter the progression of my disease"; or "I am going to feel good, in spite of the cancer". Even if none of these things are true, it is good for the person to have these positive thoughts, because it will affect the way he feels on a daily basis. Just by virtue of thinking good thoughts, he has a better chance of feeling good feelings.

Here is an example that may make a little more sense,

The other day, I was in the emergency room, after taking an overdose of one of my medications. I had been demoted from a job that I loved, and I was in a deep state of self-loathing and worthlessness. I could only see the dark side of the work options available to me, and I just wanted to escape into a land of nothingness.

My son, ever the optimist, was trying to cheer me up by saying encouraging things about giving it another try and it wouldn't be so bad once I actually got there; I would have a new boss, and I should give that person a chance. Well, I wasn't buying any of this, and I became even more forlorn. Then, in the middle of saying something fairly serious, my son popped up with one of my favorite comical imitations that he does, of a well-known local politician. Well, it just about tickled the heck out of me. I started to smile and then, my son added another one of my favorite imitations that he does. I began to laugh and then he added yet another voice that I like. We were very nearly rolling over from the humor of the situation, and it felt so good.

Still, my son was not finished. He proceeded to take out his IPOD and had me listen to a song that was a favorite of his and mine from before I got admitted into the state hospital last year. It invoked all kinds of positive memories of a time when things were finally being worked out for me. He finished by playing another song that we both had just discovered that the other liked - a tune by Aha, called Take Me On. We were pumping our arms to the upbeat tempo of the song and pretty soon, I felt better. I felt so much better, in fact, that I told the doctor I wanted to be discharged and go home. They had previously said I should be admitted into the psych ward.

My son and I came home, and I proceeded to take a short nap and then got all of my Sunday chores done. We talked for hours that day, and between the two of us, we came to see that my demotion was not such an awful thing after all.

This is the kind of thing I am talking about. Each person may have their own set of things that gets to their "funny bone", but in this case, what my son did worked for me. Rather than looking at a prolonged stay in a psych ward, I am now preparing to go back to work tomorrow, to face my work life as a demoted supervisor. I am ready for the challenge and, in many ways, I feel like I will be a better employee because of the experience I had as a supervisor.

I am just saying that it is always a good idea for us to keep ourselves open to positive things happening. If we are so down and closed off to something good happening, it could be right there in front of our faces and we might miss it. And just so you know - I had told my son at an earlier time, when I was not depressed, that he should try one of his voice imitations on me, if I became depressed and see if that would help me out. We found out that it did, and I am in a much better space because of it.

I hope that this can be a source of inspiration to some of you reading my post. Had I not purposefully set it up to where I might be affected by something positive happening to me, I might have been completely closed off to the idea.

It would have been a real shame (not to mention a costly hospital stay) to not have seized that moment that was offered to me by my son.

Kay

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Originally posted by nakesnude:
Hello to All,

The example of the minister was a different one from what I have in mind when I suggest to people that they keep their thoughts positive and be open to good things happening. The minister was somehow implying that the man with cancer was not a good enough Christian, and this was why he was not getting better. I absolutely abhor this line of thinking, as it implies that people have to "do good works" to have a spot in heaven and/or to have a good life here on earth. I don't believe that being a good Christian has any bearing on whether or not your cancer will get better or get worse.

Let's take the same example of the man with cancer, only this time he keeps thinking things like, "I will have a positive outcome"; "I can alter the progression of my disease"; or "I am going to feel good, in spite of the cancer". Even if none of these things are true, it is good for the person to have these positive thoughts, because it will affect the way he feels on a daily basis. Just by virtue of thinking good thoughts, he has a better chance of feeling good feelings.

Here is an example that may make a little more sense,

The other day, I was in the emergency room, after taking an overdose of one of my medications. I had been demoted from a job that I loved, and I was in a deep state of self-loathing and worthlessness. I could only see the dark side of the work options available to me, and I just wanted to escape into a land of nothingness.

My son, ever the optimist, was trying to cheer me up by saying encouraging things about giving it another try and it wouldn't be so bad once I actually got there; I would have a new boss, and I should give that person a chance. Well, I wasn't buying any of this, and I became even more forlorn. Then, in the middle of saying something fairly serious, my son popped up with one of my favorite comical imitations that he does, of a well-known local politician. Well, it just about tickled the heck out of me. I started to smile and then, my son added another one of my favorite imitations that he does. I began to laugh and then he added yet another voice that I like. We were very nearly rolling over from the humor of the situation, and it felt so good.

Still, my son was not finished. He proceeded to take out his IPOD and had me listen to a song that was a favorite of his and mine from before I got admitted into the state hospital last year. It invoked all kinds of positive memories of a time when things were finally being worked out for me. He finished by playing another song that we both had just discovered that the other liked - a tune by Aha, called Take Me On. We were pumping our arms to the upbeat tempo of the song and pretty soon, I felt better. I felt so much better, in fact, that I told the doctor I wanted to be discharged and go home. They had previously said I should be admitted into the psych ward.

My son and I came home, and I proceeded to take a short nap and then got all of my Sunday chores done. We talked for hours that day, and between the two of us, we came to see that my demotion was not such an awful thing after all.

This is the kind of thing I am talking about. Each person may have their own set of things that gets to their "funny bone", but in this case, what my son did worked for me. Rather than looking at a prolonged stay in a psych ward, I am now preparing to go back to work tomorrow, to face my work life as a demoted supervisor. I am ready for the challenge and, in many ways, I feel like I will be a better employee because of the experience I had as a supervisor.

I am just saying that it is always a good idea for us to keep ourselves open to positive things happening. If we are so down and closed off to something good happening, it could be right there in front of our faces and we might miss it. And just so you know - I had told my son at an earlier time, when I was not depressed, that he should try one of his voice imitations on me, if I became depressed and see if that would help me out. We found out that it did, and I am in a much better space because of it.

I hope that this can be a source of inspiration to some of you reading my post. Had I not purposefully set it up to where I might be affected by something positive happening to me, I might have been completely closed off to the idea.

It would have been a real shame (not to mention a costly hospital stay) to not have seized that moment that was offered to me by my son.

Kay