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I am 46 and my husband is 53. I have known him for over 17 years.We dated back then and later just became friends. He has been married several times as have I. We have been married on month today. In the one month we have had sex 3 times. 17 years ago he had no problems. He said his problems developed about 6 years ago. He is a diabetic. I knew he had ED before we married but I believed that love would fix it. That all he needed was an understanding partner. He took Viagra before we dated. THen simply used a cock ring. NOw he has gotten aprescription for cialis. It has helped some. We have only tried it one time. I guess what I am trying to understand is, are any of the other partners obsessed with themselves to the point of not seeming to care if the woman has an orgasm? He took a cialis last pm and began acting as if he wanted sex. Then just a quickly shut himself off emotionally and went to sleep. I didn't know how to react. He said he just couldn't get motivated. It never got even close to foreplay. This morning we were talking and I asked if so something was wrong. His answer was just because I didn't have sex with you last nite? I know this is a very emotional problem for these men but where do our feelings count. Are they allowed to talk to us like this or act as if sex is just something for their pleasure.
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