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Hi everyone. I am 33 and my husband is 34. We have 3 children, and ever since the 3rd one was born my husband had had ED. He has gone to a urologist who has done bloodwork on him, but that is all. He keeps giving my husband Viagra, which seems to help. But I don't feel that at age 34 we should have to rely on Viagra. While I was pregnant I didn't want sex much at all, so I turned him away a lot. I just feel now that I am getting a taste of my own medicine, so to speak. I still am not a very sexual person, but on the nights when we actually get time to have sex, he can't do it. We have a great relationship aside from sex. He is a wonderful father & husband. I just hate the stress that this is causing on us. Of course I have asked him if it is me, which he assures me it is not. And I believe him because I have pretty good self-esteem. I'm not overweight, I work out regularly, I always fix myself up when I am going out. I have even had breast surgery to give back my breasts that breastfeeding took away. The thing is, my husband doesn't seem to want to go to another doctor to get checked out to see if it is something else that is causing this. Then when we have a night like we did last night it's like we are back to square 1. He didn't take his Viagra last night and couldn't perform, so we fought. It's not very often that I initiate sex, and I did last night. I don't understand it at all, I don't understand how he feels. But he doesn't know how I feel either. I feel like we are both the victim here. I don't want to rely on Viagra forever. Any thoughts?
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