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I am so tired of being anxious and depressed for 2 reasons one is the obvious is that it sucks. The second is that no one can understand. It's not like having a brokenleg where you get sympathy. No one understands and everyone thinks you are just lazy and anti socila and an asshole. Does anybody else have this problem? If so what do you do about it?
I really truly do... People get mean often.. yell at you.. they get scared.. they dont understand why you were normal once.. and now you just arent functioning.. they dont know how to deal or cope with it...
I found this page sometimes helped with people who truly want to help..
This is the first time I've signed up for a support group...I saw the title of your message and it is exactly how I feel. people look at my life and think everything should be going fine...married, on the pathway to a good career. Why do I still feel like this? Why do people get so upset when I try to confide in them? It's nothing I can change...it's not just a bad mood. It's a feeling that is just there...or feelings that are not there...if that even makes sense. Just know you're not the only one out there that's tired of it. I wanna take a stand but I don't know how.
hi my name is felicia i am a single mom with 2 kids also diabled due to 2 back surgies that didnt work.what i dont like is when they say they know what we are going through.i have had a life of hell and still live it.i dont believe in real help.who really knows the answers.i try so hard to get better and it just make me feel worse then better.i am suffering from depression and panic attacks.i been through alot of tramas and still have a hard time dealing with it.
Ed, It does suck. a lot. I don't know about you, but does it seem like no matter how hard you try to be positive and see the world as glass-half-full, your mind won't let you? Sometimes I feel like I am trapped by my own thoughts and emotions.
You asked what we do to cope. I say cope because I don't think I actually feel better (sometimes, but not usually), but I cope so that I don't burden those closest to me. Do you have family and friends? If so, then you know how awful it can feel to know you are causing someone to feel like you do by "confiding" in them. I feel like I have lost friends because of my "whining". I have gotten into arguments with those I love simply because I didn't feel good. And it feels so very selfish.My heart breaks every time I snap at my BF just because I am irritable for no good reason. Apologies feel meaningless after awhile...
I cope by constantly doing "mental health checks". I ask myself questions often, sometimes multiple times an hour or how ever often I need to:
-how am I feeling? sometimes it's just an ache in my chest and until I ask myself this, I don't realize I am sad or having a panic attack
-why am I feeling this way? sometimes you can pinpoint the trigger, sometimes you can't. it's when you can pinpoint the trigger that helps the most. it could be as big as job loss or as small as a flat tire. You can't begin to cope/heal until you know where to start.
-How can change this feeling/situation? if you know the trigger, you may be able to develop a plan of action. if it's the job loss, a simple step as updating your resume may help. if it's the flat tire, calling for help or changing to a spare may help (these are trivial examples to keep it easy)
-What if nothing triggered it? This is where I still have major difficulty. I am a problem solver and it frustrates me to no end when I can't figure out what the problem is so I can solve it.This morning I have been having panic attacks for no reason. Reading these posts and explaining my situation in the forums has helped a little.
hi ed, i can sympathize and relate, just like everyone here. it sucks that others who are fortunate to not experience what we are going through don't understand (or don't try to understand). as a result, i got into a lot of arguments with friends and close family members and i ended up alienated many of them. what do i do to cope with my depression? i FORCE myself to keep busy. work, road trips, outdoor activities (running, surfing, golfing, biking, batting cages, walking). i go at them alone 99% of the time and i know they're only temporary but every little bit helps.
i finally went to see a therapist a few years ago to ease my depression but for some reason i ended up feeling angry afterwards. i also went on a few medications but the side effects, mental and physical, were just too much for me to handle.
Right now keeping myself busy seems to work the best and i can assure you most of my efforts are spent drumming up the enthusiasm.
I do know that i should fight and overcome this situation, but sometimes i just feel like there's not a drop of strength left inside me. Ok, i have to go and do this and that and make myself feel better, but no, there's just not a shadow of energy left, not in my mind, not in my soul. I've never in my life felt so powerless before this stupid depression(well i think it is a depression, i'm not going to a doctor yet). but then, it turns out i do have some strength left at those times, since i'm still here and going on and fighting. and i have not injured or harmed myself either. In truth, i never before thought i'd do something harmful to myself before. Suicide and things like that started to seem far more close to me, related to me only after i started digging out all those stuffs about depression in the internet. and that is stupid. there's no need to go and make things seem to ourselves worse than they really are. of course informations are necessary, only we should try to not think things worse for it. I feel really, truly fucked up. But life is beautiful hey =]. I'm gonna fight this stupid depression, and stop it from making me blind to all the wonders and beauties this world holds. I'm gonna be strong, and i'm soon gonna be happy. Wish u all the same
I completely understand what you are saying about people not understanding. I had someone tell me last night that I am a baby and that I need to stop feeling sorry for myself. It infuriated me. I am so tired of dealing with people who don't realize what it is like to have to pretend to be happy when inside you are falling apart.
I wish I had an answer of how to deal with it, but I don't. I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone in the way you are feeling.
