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ive been depressed for about 8 years. it has just gotten severe within the past 5 months. im still upset over my father passing away almost 3 years ago and just tonite my boyfriend broke up with me bc he doesnt want to be in a relationship when he goes to basic. we have had a hard relaionship lately but this just did it for me. i cant stop crying and feeling like my life is over. i dont want anyone but him. please does this go away?
I know how breakups go.. They're horrible. Words can't describe how painful they are, and no one ever understands how much pain you go through with breakups until they deal with it themselves. I know that nothing I can do or say is going to make you feel better right now. Just know that in time, it does get better. Time heals the pain of a breakup.. days will pass, and you'll still miss him, but a year from now, you'll look back, and you won't be feeling the pain you're feeling now. I'm not saying it'll take that long to get over it, but you'll look back and realize that you didn't have to feel it forever. The first week is always the hardest. Call a friend and have a girl's night. Watch some movies or something. I know it's hard right now, but it does get better.. I know it seems like it won't, but it does. There's a light at the end of the tunnel.
It may be too late to respond to this, but you have to go easier on yourself! A breakup is the time where you're MOST vulnerable. You've lost an important person in your life, and naturally we blame ourselves and begin to criticize every detail about why someone would leave. But what you have to remember is every great thing about you that brought people into your life in the first place-- it's all still true! Whether you feel great or not, you can't lose sight of what's positive.
