Depression

Hi, this is the first time i have ever used a blog so i am not sure if I am doing this right or not but I figured I need something right now. My husband of almost seven years has recently been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder. For the seven years that we have been married and the two or so years before that he was an every night drinker. He drank about 6 to 8 beers a night. With the diagnoses they have as well found him to suffer from depression. I believe he drank because it was the only thing that would drown out his thoughts for a while.

When he was diagnosed with Bipolar, his medication restricted him form drinking alcohol. Great!!! Right???? Well yes and no, here comes my delemia, he was an alcoholic, and it is very challenging for him not to drink. He is ready to give up taking the medication so he can drink again. i of course am tired of dealing with the alcohol and having that come before our family, but also want to be supportive. I am finding it very difficult to handle hearing him constantly talk about how he wishes he could drink. At what point should I allow myself to give up the fight. When should I step back and let nature take it's course. I wish he would want to continue to help himself and want help but when he gives up on himself, is it okay for me to give up as well? Or should I conitnue to fight for him? Please help me I need some advise from people who have dealt with similar situations. Thank You in advance. Neddy

Hello, I don't want to give the impression that I am a bible thumper, however, I believe at times like this some spirtual counseling can help. I truly believe that if at present you don't have a church community, you may want to attend a service at some churches in and around your community, and when one seems comfortable to you ask the pastor if you could have a private talk with him or her. You may very well be pleasantly suprized by the guideance that comes your way. On a practical level they meaning tne christian community will lend a hand, if needed on a practical level, and perhaps suggest a support group and counseling for both of you. I know it's not easy having to deal with the illness of bi-polar, our son was diagnosed with bi-polar, and a personal friend of mine has it. It's important that meds are paid attention to. Alchol will just worsen the illness. Also remember that there isn't any shame in having it. I believe that your husband has lots of love to give, and is probably gifted with some creativeness in his spirit. Stand by him and get help for yourself don't try to do it alone. Take breaks when needed. Find the time to keep yourself together, even if it's aonly a few moments. Be honest, talk with family members if possible and join a bi-polar support in your area. Check the hospitals, and the internet. Perhaps meet-up.com. Speak openly with a priest, pastor about your challenges. I hope I've been of some help. God Bless