Chronic Pain

Hello,

I was just wondering if anyone felt as angry as I do about the effect chronic pain has had on thier lives. I lost a career, and the ability to do even the most basic things around the house. I guess I just need to vent, but it makes me angry that this can happen to people.

Thanks for Listening,

Todd

Hello Todd
It's a pleasure to meet you and welcome to the Chronic Pain Connection.

Your anger over your chronic pain illness is definately warrented. I think everyone here has had to deal with the overwhelming anger we all feel and the grief over a life that once was pain free.

I hope when your ready you will want to share somemore about your own personal journey in pain, with the rest of us and maybe you'd like to discuss it, vent a bit more with others who understand what your going through and have gone through up to this point.

If your not comfortable in an open area, I want you to know that your more than welcome to reach me by private message & I'll give you my email too.

Take Care
Welcome and I hope we can be of some help, support or just someone to talk to.
Betty

I know exactly how you feel. I think its especially bad when yoru dealing with chronic pain and there is no one else who understands what it is like unless they also hav that kind of pain. Its easy to forget and extremely hard to understand what its like for someone with chonic pain unless you have it.

Dear Todd,Your anger is understandable,Im angry to.Its just one of the emotions we deal with. For me saddness is worst than the anger, wacthing my wife do the yard work after working all week breaks my heart. Maybe Im old school but thats my job! Anger is one thing I try to control by not taking it out on others as best I can. I also use it as a tool to help me do things I dont want to do,I used anger to stop smoking a long time ago I got so angry that some big corporation was playing me for a fool I just quit ,it was not easy but that company has not seen one dime from me in 23 years. I get mad all the time but thats not the real hard one for me its the other feelings of saddness an lost that get to me.Hang in there my friend somtimes anger can be focused to help you out. James

Hi Todd,

Your posting spoke to me because when I read it I was feeling the same exact way. I have the moments where I get so angry - you are not alone. I used to be such a neat freak, well compared to what I am now. I used to make sure my house was a certain way and was always picked up and candles lit - I would go to the gym a few times a week, work out, make dinner for my family. All this sounds so simple, every day and mundane. It's not. It becomes everything when you are in pain all the time and sick all the time.

I was crying the other day because I was jealous of my friend for having a normal day, working, cleaning her house, taking her kids for a hair cut. It is hard, and you have every right to be angry don't let anyone tell you any different.

Try to get through the anger though and say what can I do or what can I still enjoy - sometimes that doesn't help but even if it is something as simple as being able to enjoy a pretty day that's something. Focus on the good, we have a lot of bad, more than people around us can understand so I am not taking tha away from you. I just want to help because some days feel like a marathon just to get through them.

I hope you can find some peace in you mind and just everyday. We have to work towards it. It's not fair though.

I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts,
tinabean

Todd, if anger is all you're going through, you're getting off easy. Yes, I'm angry.

I recently gave a presentation on chronic pain to The Empower Network (a network of employees with disabilities) at Eastman Kodak. In reseaching, I found that CP gives rise to a plethora of feelings, symptoms, and effects, anger among them.

I'd like to elaborate, but I read the terms and conditions for joining this group, and as I read them, I'd be signing over all my hard work and intellectual property rights to this site if I posted it here, (which ALSO angers me) and that ain't going to happen.

Good luck.

PS: While I haven't been able to find a way to focus pain into anything positive, I usually am able to focus my anger into positive/productive channels. It can be a powerful motivator. Use it. ;-)

Yes I do too. I feel so angry at my body for getting sick, at my boyfriend for expecting me to be normal when he met me when I was sick and I have only gotten worse, at his family for saying all his troubles are my fault because I am sick and cant work, at my sick brain because it hurts all the time and I cant learn Danish very well (I live in Denmark) and because I used to be able to work 60 to 80 hours a week, support myself and not have to depend on anyone and now I am dependant on my boyfriend who is constantly mad at me because I am often too headachey too get out of bed and cook, clean, cut firewood, help him build his house ect ect. And just this weekend he told me to get out. Well I have noplace to go and no money to get there. He signed an agreement with his government (he is the Dane) that he would take care of me and I would learn Danish and try to be a productive member of danish society if I was medically able. His government knows I am sick. They let me in anyway. If he tells me to leave he has to pay to send me and my things home to the USA. I tell ya´all I was so depressed and angry today I nearly got up during class and went up to the roof of the 6 story building I have danish class in and jumped. And then I nearly started to cry. Oh thank God (whoever he or she is) for this place on the net! Yes, I am angry too. You are not alone. I promise you are not alone. Sophia

Anger is absolutely normal. I'm very angry. I lost my job,my home, friends ( because they are judgemental about me taking narcotics ), my ability to do simple things, etc etc. My moods are in stages. I go from anger to depression to acceptance. Sometimes I'm even thankful.I'm thankful that I was approved for disability so quick. I'm thankful I have a wonderful pain management doctor that prescribes the medication I need. Venting helps a lot when you are angry. Feel free to do so. There are a lot of very kind people on this site. Here's hoping you have low pain days. Scooter

Anger is just one of the many emotions that run through me everyday from my pain. Sometimes I feel so bad because my anger will sometimes take control of me and I say/do things towards my loved ones that I wouldn't normally say/do. Depression is the worst of them. the pain I suffer makes me not want to continue living, to end the pain PERMANENTLY. Of course the taking of your own isn't really the answer.

I feel for you Todd, its natural for you too experience anger and many of the other emotions you feel from your pain.

Kyle