Chronic Pain

Hello,

I was just wondering if anyone felt as angry as I do about the effect chronic pain has had on thier lives. I lost a career, and the ability to do even the most basic things around the house. I guess I just need to vent, but it makes me angry that this can happen to people.

Thanks for Listening,

Todd

Hello Todd
It's a pleasure to meet you and welcome to the Chronic Pain Connection.

Your anger over your chronic pain illness is definately warrented. I think everyone here has had to deal with the overwhelming anger we all feel and the grief over a life that once was pain free.

I hope when your ready you will want to share somemore about your own personal journey in pain, with the rest of us and maybe you'd like to discuss it, vent a bit more with others who understand what your going through and have gone through up to this point.

If your not comfortable in an open area, I want you to know that your more than welcome to reach me by private message & I'll give you my email too.

Take Care
Welcome and I hope we can be of some help, support or just someone to talk to.
Betty

I know exactly how you feel. I think its especially bad when yoru dealing with chronic pain and there is no one else who understands what it is like unless they also hav that kind of pain. Its easy to forget and extremely hard to understand what its like for someone with chonic pain unless you have it.

Dear Todd,Your anger is understandable,Im angry to.Its just one of the emotions we deal with. For me saddness is worst than the anger, wacthing my wife do the yard work after working all week breaks my heart. Maybe Im old school but thats my job! Anger is one thing I try to control by not taking it out on others as best I can. I also use it as a tool to help me do things I dont want to do,I used anger to stop smoking a long time ago I got so angry that some big corporation was playing me for a fool I just quit ,it was not easy but that company has not seen one dime from me in 23 years. I get mad all the time but thats not the real hard one for me its the other feelings of saddness an lost that get to me.Hang in there my friend somtimes anger can be focused to help you out. James

Hi Todd,

Your posting spoke to me because when I read it I was feeling the same exact way. I have the moments where I get so angry - you are not alone. I used to be such a neat freak, well compared to what I am now. I used to make sure my house was a certain way and was always picked up and candles lit - I would go to the gym a few times a week, work out, make dinner for my family. All this sounds so simple, every day and mundane. It's not. It becomes everything when you are in pain all the time and sick all the time.

I was crying the other day because I was jealous of my friend for having a normal day, working, cleaning her house, taking her kids for a hair cut. It is hard, and you have every right to be angry don't let anyone tell you any different.

Try to get through the anger though and say what can I do or what can I still enjoy - sometimes that doesn't help but even if it is something as simple as being able to enjoy a pretty day that's something. Focus on the good, we have a lot of bad, more than people around us can understand so I am not taking tha away from you. I just want to help because some days feel like a marathon just to get through them.

I hope you can find some peace in you mind and just everyday. We have to work towards it. It's not fair though.

I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts,
tinabean