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Nite time greetings all, Hope all of you are well. Betty, I'm happy for you getting to go to hawaii(and a little envious). Sounds like a wonder-full 2 weeks. Not too much going on around here. I've taken up online flying. There are several web sites with servers where flight sim logs on and you fly with others. The one I've been doing; a guy set up a bunch of short challenging flight(real world weather, navigation and air traffic) some of them are a real challenge. The only problem is if I sit in my chair too long(most of them are short(45 min to an hour)I end up getting all stiff and sore from the chair. Gotta have some thing to complain about I guess..LOL It's been to hot to do much out side 91 today and a little warmer tomorrow. Anyway, can you believe the year is half over?? Time flies once ya hit 50! Nite all chuck
Good morning toute la gang, Chuck flying sounds like a fascinating hobby. My son Mike does that too. He doesn’t have his licence but Mike has learned to fly from a friend who had his own floater plane for a while. It is an expensive hobby, if you are trying to learn to fly from private lessons. LOL I fully understand about sitting too long at the computer and its resulting pains and stiffness. I guess you cannot pause the program every 15 minutes to move around a bit. We have been having the miserable weather that Ellie described a couple of weeks ago, even frost warnings for the plants at night. However, there is hope now, knowing that the western and southern weather is hot and beautiful. My weather needs to come from one of those directions and I refuse to think it will come from the north. I mean having to wear a turtleneck, a sweater and a jacket on June 2nd is just plain rude. HEE HEE Hi Danielle, what a lovely letter you posted last week. I am sorry that your fatigue problem continues to challenge you. You are doing so much now I bet some of the fatigue is well earned. How much sleep are you able to get in the evenings and each night? I am so happy that Kojak has turned to be a cuddly dog; some just don’t have this in their nature. Men sometimes find this “wimpy” but there is nothing like the unconditional love of a cuddly dog when you are tired and sore. Bless him. Super news about your niece Aly! I am also glad your husband is settling down with his new meds. I do understand how tiring this can be too. My niece, now age 22, is bi polar and her brother, age 20, was diagnosed with schizophrenia about a year ago. My niece lived with me for a year when she was 14 because she was just out of drug rehab (self medicating and out of control) and was in the process of being diagnosed with a psychiatrist, while living with me. I really do understand the challenges of living with someone who is cycling frequently. My niece refused to go home after rehab and I knew that a group home or foster home, just at that point, might send her in the wrong directions permanently. She was a full time job but she did pass her grade level and she became more trusting of people by the time she left to go home to her MOM! She now has a 6-month-old baby and is coping well enough for the moment……….. but meds and med adjustments still remain her major challenge. Feel free to chat with me if you want to. Although I know the challenges are different and must be much more challenging when your husband has med changes and you need him to be there for you. Hang in there, you are doing so well.
DebO, I am so sorry that your pain has ramped up as bad as ever. I hope you don’t mind that Betty shared this with me. I /we worry about you. I hope you will find the strength to come back to the grind so we can support you as you go through this huge disappointment about the surgery and pain. Sending love, hugs and prayers your way! We Canadians can be very shy to share; we seem to need to be stoic.
Ellie, You are right in the thick of your busy month. I do hope the boxes that are unpacked aren’t bugging you so much that you over do unpacking. I know you will but wearing your old brace for moving day was a brilliant idea and a great idea for unpacking too. It must be so exciting to be in a real house and so close to your work now, for next year. I can’t believe that school is over in Colorado. The kids around here go right until the end of June. So now, you can listen to your body, while you are on summer break and heal from your slip in the shower a couple of months ago. Best of luck with your upcoming neurosurgeon appointment, travel for Sam’s military graduation ceremony and having Sam come home for a few weeks to a new home. Enjoy it all Ellie, these are the times that wonderful memories are made. I wish you the lowest of pain throughout it all.
Betty, I am sorry to hear about Helen. Is cellulites like fluid retention? I am sorry an ER trip was necessary but good that you pointed it out to Deb at the turn over so that it was caught early. I know just what you mean about the peacefulness of walking around your property checking out your plants and flowers. I have planted my annuals in their pots and boxes (with my cousin Jane’s help) but I had to gather them up and put them in the garage on Sunday night. I think tonight is the last cold, frost warning night. Then, I can soak in the beauty of all the different flowers in all my gardens……..oh yes, I will get my exercise dead heading. For those of you who aren’t gardeners, that means the endless clipping off of the dead flowers to encourage new growth. I hope you have a relaxing week at home Betty.
I remain in a state of frustration about the surgery. I have explained politely in every way that I can what my questions are and what I need to happen. It is now a month since I was notified of the costs and that I asked for a surgical target date to be made. Kelly is just a nightmare for me now. She won’t talk to me on the phone. One thing Kelly doesn’t know and that I just learned yesterday is that Bruce Babington, my osteopath has been in email communication with the surgeon, Dr. Pradhan, about another patient and me. Bruce maybe able to help me by-pass Kelly if this goes on any longer. YEAH! I have tried to respect Kelly’s wishes that everything is controlled through her but it just isn’t working, so now I cc the hospital administrator about everything too so stories can’t get mixed up.
Last Saturday, I finally came to my senses and wrote a “sort of” ultimatum letter which I would like to share with you. WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE? May 30, 2009
Dear Kelly & Judy, I only have 2 goals; 1. To have the best surgeon, surgical procedure and hospital care possible to give me the best chance for to improve my pain and mobility. a. I believe I will have this with Dr. Pradhan and VHH. 2. To insure / guarantee that the price quoted, $55,000 US is ALL that I pay, in total with the exception of personal items such as ordering a TV and catastrophic problems resulting from the surgery of which I can think of only 3, heart attack and a serious stroke and death. I just don’t have any more money. a. Should any of these catastrophic events happen, I trust my daughter, Diana Bernier to make decisions for me, including flying me home. I accept that any extra care resulting from these 2 events would mean additional charges by VHH which would be paid by me, or my estate via monthly payments until paid in full. I would expect the hospital to discuss this with Diana or me before extra charges are incurred. b. All other needs for my care will be meet during my stay at VHH, as per the first paragraph of your document dated May 28, 2009 and agreement with Kelly Meloche.
As I see it, all of us, Kelly, Judy and myself are worried about the same financial concerns; we do not want to be responsible for more than we have agreed to. Perhaps all of us need to take a leap of faith in each other. If I were a gambling person, which I am not, the think the expression is that I am “betting the house”, …….. all that I have financially and all that I hope for the future medically. I ask both of you Kelly and Judy to gamble that all will go well for my surgery and make a commitment to me. I propose the following solutions in this order; 1. A date for the surgery be firmly set and agreed by all. 2. One of you, Kelly or Judy, agree to guarantee to me that I am not responsible financially for more than stated above in point 2, 2a and 2b, including pre-op tests by VHH at no additional charge. • Personally, I believe this agreement should be between Kelly and me as Kelly is the broker for this surgery and is Canadian. 3. I will try to arrange a medical clearance which includes only the basic physical exam, vital signs and any on going current illnesses by my primary doctor, Dr. Y. Gladu. • As mentioned before, test results would all be in French if done here. I was never made aware that more than a general check-up by my doctor here would be required and that all other needed tests would be done at VHH. • I will provide my medical history written in English. 4. I need to speak to Dr. Pradhan for a second time. I need the reassurance that as my doctor in charge while at VHH, he or one of his team will check on me daily, that he still feels confident in my case and clear up a couple of outstanding questions of mine. • As you can imagine this is a big step, 5,000 miles away from home and family, from another Country. I am basing my decision on my gut sense after a single conversation with Dr. Pradhan and the encouragement here by Bruce Babington that this is the right medical decision. As Dr. Pradhan said to me, it is just carpentry for him but with any surgery there is risk and I am also trusting the vascular surgeon, ?? and the anaesthesiologist, ??, to be the best at keeping me safe. 5. After receiving the surgical date, a brief call with Dr. Pradhan and agreement (written and signed) by one of you, I will then get my certified cheque Kelly, as close to 2 weeks prior to surgery. Please understand, without a set date I can’t go forward. I must be able to secure flights and my daughter’s availability to take me to L.A. Here in Canada when surgery is needed, you get a call for the date of the surgery and within 3 weeks of the surgery pre-op tests are done all at the same time. Kelly, the only other thing that you have assured me is that you will provide a break down of costs in “understandable terms” for income tax purposes, after my surgery. Is this still your commitment to me? Please let me know if both of you are agreeable with the above proposal by Wednesday June 3, 2009. I am sure you will agree, we all need to move forward. Regards, Deborah Maass-Howard
This is the reply that I got from Kelly yesterday. From: kellyTo: dmaasshoward@hotmail.com Subject: Date: Mon, 1 Jun 2009 18:47:34 -0400 Hi Deb, Your proposal has been reviewed. Please forward all of your questions to me so we can ensure they are delegated appropriately. We are currently looking at our schedules in order to create another conference call and when we arrive at a date and time, you will be immediately notified. Thank You, Kelly Kelly A. Meloche International Health Care Providers Inc. 3063 Walker Rd. Suite 203 Windsor, ON N8W 3R4 Anyway, Wednesday is the day I am supposed to hear something. I doubt I will. At that point, I will go directly to the hospital and the doctor only. It is all very stressful but I am at the point now that I feel………if it happens it is meant to be and if it doesn’t happen that is also meant to be.
Hugs to all and I wish you a great Tuesday, including Mark, Adrian, Peppi and all the others who used to post on the grind. DS Deb
As you give love out, it's received and reciprocated--and it grows. ............ and eventually it comes back. —Hill Harper
It's been a pretty relaxing day here, that is, between the stressful calls from Debbie. I know how much attention that sis requires when she does not feel well and I know this leg hurts and she also is really difficult to have to adjust herself to keeping her legs elevated sooooo very high. She complains more like a very whiney 2 or 3 year old, instead of an older woman. It just gets very stressful, because she repeats the same questions and aguments over & over and it's not because she does not remember, it's just because she wants to break you down to give in to her demands. And I know how she's treating Debbie, its much worse than how she talks to me.
Tomorrow am, I have to take my two little baby dogs down to the vet for their yearly dental cleaning. So I told Sis I would come by her house and visit her tomorrow. She was happy about that, said she missed me so much and she loves me. Talk about make me feel guilty, but I've only been home since Sunday afternoon and I'm still very tired from the last two nights of 0 zero sleep. I don't know why I'm still haveing so much trouble staying awake throughout the day, but golly I'm a sleepy head.
The dogs and I went out for a nice walk around the yard, so I could check on my flowers, pick a few deadheads and just piddle around. It's a really nice evening here. The sun is still out, but going down in the west, still over 70* with a slight breeze and it just feels good. My crazy allergies are just driving me crazy, but I've taken my allergy meds and eye drops, so it's not as bad as it was. My eyes are just red and itching like crazy though, with of course that stuffy nose thing going on. Oh, well! my pain is undercontrol with just my baseline meds and Otherthan the stiffness when I get up, I'm feeling pretty terrific in that catagory, so I'll deal with the silly allergies. lol
I hope you all are having a good day. I'll try to post again tomorrow after I get back from town. I've been watching the NCAA Womans Softball Games and really enjoyed them. Our Husky Ladies just won the Championship and I'm really happy for them. We have 3 Canadian Young ladies on the team and the star pitcher is from Canada and played on the Canadian team in the Olympics too. She's really a great player.
Well, I had better go make me some eggs & bacon for some supper. it's boweling night, so I'm on my own and would like to head to bed soon.
Much love and many hugs to all Betty
Do not be dismayed by toil or suffering, nor by the meager fruit of your labors. Remember that God rewards not according to results, but effort.
Blessed Zefirino Agostini
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I love my new house! It is just amazing to drive through this lovely neighborhood and pull up in front of this nice house and say, "We're home!"
Still have millions of boxes to unpack. I've been working on them a few at a time. Now we are running into issues like: hmm, can't put up that painting until we move that desk..can't move the desk until we find the box that has the brackets...You guys know how that stuff goes. And of course, my pain was down for a bit this afternoon, so I pushed it and now my leg and back are objecting severely. sigh...
We got some sad news today about one of our cats. He has been acting sick for a while. Then he got much worse. So we took him to a new vet, in our new town, and it turns out he has FIV, which is the cat equivalent of HIV/AIDS. So he hs some secondary infections which are making him miserable. They gave him antibiotics for those and meds that we have to give him.
I am thinking of all of you... I'm going to post this and do more later..
So anyway, Betty, I really hope Helen gets better quickly. I know you worry about her. Are you able to take advantage of those deals on cheap flights to Hawaii I've seen advertised? I hope so; it would help on your expenses even more! Take care of yourself, sweet lady. And take some of your kindhearted advice about not overdoing it. Love ya!
Danielle, my sis, good to talk to you a bit the other day. I'll pray for your husband. Mine takes meds for anxiety and depression. I understand the difference between meds., no meds, and not enough meds...It is like he becomes a different, very irritable, potentially abusive person. It is just incredible. Peace to both of you as you go through this tough time! Hang in there! Love you, little sister!
Deborama, I hear you are feeling down and painful. That really stinks, my friend! I sure wish that wasn't the case. You deserve to be feeling much better! What do they say is the primary source of your abdominal pain now? I sure hope you can get some answers and relief soon.
Chuck, I hope you are having fun flying online! Sounds really great! I hope your weather is clear and bright because I know what a differnce that makes!
DSDeb, you are so amazing! To keep fighting this fight and trying to make sure it is the right decision so you are not rushing into things. I'll be praying for your conference call tomorrow and that it clears up everything for you; whether you should go ahead with the surgery, or not, you need clear information on which to base your decision... Wisdom, guidance, and direction to you! Love ya, Lady!
Alrighty, then...I'm pretty much falling asleep here and I'd better shut down for the night. Sleep well, everyone! I hope that is what you are all doing right now!! HUGS!
Good Morning all, Rainy and stormy here for the last couple of days. Really wakes up the pain, knees and rt hip seems to be the worst. My wife had to go back to work today after having 10 days off, I'm worried she's gonna get laid off. The firestone plant where she works has never been this slow. That's the only job anywhere near here that pays decent at all. I guess we'll see. Everyone keep their fingers crossed. Well fellow painiacs I'm going back ti the heat pad and watch it rain. Chuck
Hi dear friends, Well the conference call with the doctor and hospital, planned for yesterday at 4 pm was cancelled at 2:15 pm. I had emailed Kelly in the morning as a last ditch effort to be united because I felt that most of the issues in question were between her and me. Our problems stemmed from my queries about if there were additional taxes over and above the quoted amount, then about Canadian GST tax (Goods and Services). It was then I realized that she probably wasn’t registered for this tax. After then she wouldn’t speak to me on the phone because she said I didn’t trust her which I guess I had good reason for, looking back now. Anyway after 3 intense weeks of waiting for a surgery date that never came, Kelly finally answered my questions about the pre-op which she was now saying I had to arrange to be done via my family doctor and local hospitals within 7 days of the surgery date which was still unknown.
What a joke! All the tests and exams here in Quebec with my doctors would be in French. They even use different acronyms for the tests. So, after many emails, trying to explain the problem Kelly added that I could have the pre-op in California, that I needed to come a day early (at my expense) and I would have to pay for the exam and all tests but she didn’t tell me how much! After another few days of trying to find out a price and now cc’ing the hospital person (Judy), on Tuesday afternoon Judy arranged a conference call for yesterday (less than 24 hours notice) and asked that I send her my questions that day so that they could prepare.
On Tuesday, I had my big quarterly cortisone shots in both hips and bilaterally in my spine at S1/L5 and L5/L4 and was told to rest in bed for 3-5 days icing the areas as much as possible. I drove myself to this appointment as my list of drivers is few and they were all busy. So I worked as much as possible, the gave up and told Judy about my cortisone shots and that I would work on it in the morning (Thursday).
Therefore, that is why I started with Kelly (IHP). I said that my first question I would ask about is the pricing for the pre-op and suggested that if I cleared for surgery that the price be included (I always thought it was) and if not, I pay for everything and fly home and not pay the $55,000.
Meanwhile, I had found my original intake form with Kelly and noticed that I had wisely added a line that payment with any provider would only take place after the pre-op exams at the facility. No wonder I kept getting confused and thinking things were different for payment and pre-op…….because that is what we had agreed upon …… because most probably I wouldn’t be able to go for a physical consultation until I went for the surgery, due to the pain involved for me in flying. I scanned this page of the intake form and attached it to the email.
I also asked for Kelly’s Incorporation registration number and queried why it wasn’t on her invoices. Well, with 15 minutes of sending this email. I got one back saying that her company and the hospital could not meet my needs and that I should look for surgery elsewhere, the conference call was cancelled and would not be re-scheduled.
I was devastated. I know there was something wrong with the set up but I still have confidence in the doctor’s skill and course of action. I guess it was not meant to be.
I am still in shock this morning. I could use a hug today. My Dad who was going to listen in on the call (which I advised Judy) immediately suggested I call my family doctor and get him working on alternatives etc etc………..I listened, exhausted and in tears. My mom msn’d me an hour later, wanting to come over and she had other ideas. I just needed to go to bed and ice my injection sites and cry for a bit. I guess she was angry with me again as she didn't pick up the phone last night when I called. I am sorry (again). I seem to make a mess of everything. I just hope that Mum and Dad and Diana can understand that it is hard to hear that what you have been hoping for with all your being is taken away, one minute then, with the best intensions, people want you to get excited about new ideas within a couple of hours. It is too much for me. I hope they can understand and I so appreciate that they want to get more involved now.
I have been around the medical ropes in the Montreal area for 3 years now and with Bruce (my osteopath) also searching we haven't been able to find anyone who knows the right techniques for me. I know we haven't searched every one and there must be something out there. I guess.
I spend 6 months of my life working on LSI only to find out that my back was in worse shape than they could treat.......yet Dr. Genge (my Neurologist) who finally agreed with this laser treatment said that I was the most emotional patient she has ever had and never bothered to even look at my MRI or perhaps even the report from a year ago.
Then I spent 4 intense months with Kelly Meloche, searching for the best doctor for me. I had a lot of faith in her in this regard and still do I think. It was only when I asked about additional taxes that it all started to unravel and the pre-op debacle was the last straw, I guess. On the business side, she is poorly setup and perhaps scamming the governments and patients but on the medical side she did have a knack for connecting people to the right treatments.
Now all of this is in the past. I have liquidated half of my decent interest bearing coupons and removed some money from my RRSP. (I would have needed to do this anyway to cover my expenses here..........I still haven't hit 0 balances on my credit cards. lol ) So, on we go, all of us. The world does not stop.
Except the world did stop, for my ability to participate in life "normally" without pain, three years ago today, June 4, 2006. This is an anniversary of sorts. I will celebrate it alone, as I do most things. Now, it is hard to even see or talk to people in an ordinary way. Isolation has its drawbacks. However, I am looking forward to getting my plants out and wandering around the property and planning little jobs to do here. I love my home and the beauty of my property.
I have learned how to enjoy my solitary life as best I can, except Saturday nights (it is weird). lol I am trying not to be a burden and have successfully survived a year of managing the household and property without help from friends and family. There are still things I just can't do alone, like drive long distances to appointments or move heavy things around the house. I am considering buying a dolly so that I can do some of this alone too. My days are determined by my level of pain, my energy and my treatment appointments as all of you know too well. I have been fortunate in that although my back is deteriorating more rapidly now, my pain management pills and treatments are working better, at the moment. That inversion table was the best thing I have invested in so far.
I have spent thousands and thousands of dollars in the past 3 years in treatments, MRI's, medication and countless other things to help myself and thank God for Bruce Babington (even if his treatments aren't covered by insurance). He has really helped me weekly to keep as positive as I can. I hope he will not be angry with me for the California surgery not happening. I know he believed that I got to the right doctor and right surgery. I also know he supported all my queries regarding the money and Kelly. I see him tomorrow, Friday so I will find out his thoughts then.
I hope you wish me well on this third anniversary, tomorrow I start my 4th year. Yikes!
Thank God that I found all of you! Bless you!
So, now you are caught up in my life and I can get back to normal postings with you. Hope your day today is peaceful and comfortable. Love and Hugs, DS Deb
As you give love out, it's received and reciprocated--and it grows. ............ and eventually it comes back. —Hill Harper
It's been a fairly warm & muggy day here. This evening the wind stirred up and it looked like it was going to pour down with some thunder & lightening, Rod even called from work to have me close up a couple of things, as it was pouring rain in town, but when I went out for my yard walk and wonder around, I only felt a couple of drops and there has not been any others. So I think we missed the storm again. yaaaaaaaaaa!
My pain has been pretty good, but goes up & down at lower levels. My allergies have been drving me nuts with the itchy eyes, stuffy nose and plugged up head and the added dull and blaring pain of a pressure headache. I'm been pretty lazy today and just watched tv and dozed off for a couple of naps. My allergy sinus headache meds make me sleepier than normal, so I just gave in & snoozed on & off.
I'm getting ready to make me something to eat and then head into bed to do more of the same and I hope to get a good nights sleep so I can possibly wake with out the headache again.
Father will be by to see me in the am and I don't want to be all out of it, so I'm just going to do my best to get some rest.
Deb; I'm so sorry for the series of events and where they have led you. But better you find out now that it won't work, than to spend all that money and then find that something is or went wrong. I pray that something else will come your way that will help better than the other surgery. I know this is really tough on you and my heart really goes out to you my friend. I'll be praying for you, as always.
Ellie: So happy to hear about your nice new home. What an exciting summer for you. You'll get to those boxes, one at a time sweetie.
Chuck; your flying programs really amaze me. I bet it's so fun, but more complicated than I would understand. it's nice to have a hobby that you can do in doors, especially for those of us who are forced to stay in doors so often. I'll pray that Bobby is able to keep her job, it's really been tough on alot of peoples employment and I really hope it gets better soon.
Debo; Continuing to think of you my dear. I sure hope your beginnng to feel better soon.
It's time for me to eat something and lay down. Hugs to all of you and hopes for warm sunny days and some enjoyment in the sunshine. Good Night Betty
Do not be dismayed by toil or suffering, nor by the meager fruit of your labors. Remember that God rewards not according to results, but effort.
Blessed Zefirino Agostini
Posts: 1191 | Location: Home in Washington State | Registered: 11-07-2007
It's been a fairly quiet and peaceful day. The rain storm hit us last night with the addition of wind and just stormy rainey weather. You know the kind that brings more pain and fatigue our way. Atleast it watered down the pollens and my sinus headache is not as severe. hehe
Father came to visit this am, it was his first friday home visits for us sickos, so he starts at one end of the county and goes all the way to the other end. I'm very thankful for his visit and it really brought some peace to a day that could of not been so great.
I only have a few more days to rest at home and since Sis is already behaving like she wants to force me to come back, I'm not sure if I will get them either, but I'm going to give it my best shot. I know she wants me there more, but I just don't have the energy or ability to be away from home that much and it seems like as time goes on, the less she understands that I just can't.
I hope you all have had a decent Friday and will have an enjoyable weekend.
I'll see you all tomorrow Much love and many hugs Sleep Well & Good Night Betty
Do not be dismayed by toil or suffering, nor by the meager fruit of your labors. Remember that God rewards not according to results, but effort.
Blessed Zefirino Agostini
Posts: 1191 | Location: Home in Washington State | Registered: 11-07-2007
Betty, I hear you about the storms and rainy weather! We are having that today, plus hail, tornado watches & warnings, so exciting! lol! I hope your weather has calmed down for you. Hard to believe I was getting sunburned yesterday! I hope Helen is doing well and is not too anxious. Are you back over there now? Or do you still have some days off to rest? I hope you are taking care of yourself. Can they do anything for your sinus troubles? I had sinus surgery a few years ago and it was tremendously helpful! I hope that is feeling better for you. Take care and I love ya, sweet lady!
We are still bogged down in boxes... Hard to finish unpacking when every time I try it, I overdo and end up really hurting. So... it is a matter of trying to do just a little at a time, which is apparently difficult for me to do. grrr...
Deb, I still can't tell you enough how sorry I am about your disappointing situation. Just remember all your hesitations about Kelly and how your gut feeling was that things just didn't add up. Stick with the thought that at least you didn't end up in a bad situation and lose all your money. Some other answer will come and then you will know. Love ya my dear Canadian sister!
Danielle, I'm glad you are going places and doing things with your husband. Enjoy those fun times before you do start your family. Best wishes on your job prospects! I know you will get a different, better job that won't be so hard on you physically. Hugs to your Kojax for me! Love ya, my little sister!
Chuck, how are things going for you? Are things warming up, weatherwise, in your area? Have you been able to take any walks? I bet you have some beautiful places to stroll around where you live. I hope Heidi is doing well and being a sweetie for you there. How is your wife's job situation coming along? Are things ok? I've been thinking of you both. Hang in there and take good care of each other.
Still loving the new house... Used my jetted tub last night and it was wonderful! I felt spoiled. Pain is still up and down and I see the neurosurgeon tomorrow, just to be sure I don't have another structural issue going on. I get tired of doctor appointments, don't you guys? I just wish we could all be normal and not need so much medical attention, medications, and equipment. Life with chronic pain gets complicated, doesn't it?
We leave for Missouri on Wednesday to see Sam graduate from his BCT/AIT at Fort Leonard Wood. We are very excited and proud of him!! Taking a trip this soon after, and still kind of during, our move is a bit overwhelming. But the most important thing is seeing him and being there for this important occasion! I can't wait to see my boy...looks like a man in his pics.
Ok, friends, everyone I missed, and anyone lurking or new, I hope for the very best of weeks for you. May you all have relief from pain, answers to problems, happy times with loved ones, and activities you enjoy this week. Keep in touch!
It's been a very uneventful weekend for me. Yesterday I got up and our weather had turned to cold & damp, so with that, the stiffness & pain set up, with the stuffed up head of a sinus headache. I tried staying awake after Rod left for work, but just could not do it.
So I spent my afternoon sleeping in my chair, then moved to the bedroom after I fed the dogs and sent them out side for their personal business. We went to bed and I did not wake till around 2 am and Rod acted like his feelings were hurt that I had not waited up for him. silly man. But I will try harder tonight and wait up for him. hehe
I'm really stiff today, but having a quiet day anyhow. It's my last day of R&R, then I head to Sis's tomorrow, unless Deb calls and has something else in mind. Helens friends from Australia will be here Friday Night ? I don't know exactly what time. They are flying into Vancouver and then driving a rental car down from there and by the way it sounds, I think they are not correct on what time they will arive here, as they act like it's a short drive, but it's actually several hours, plus the border takes quite a while to cross and since Sept 11, I know it's going to take longer than they expect. I'll be surprised if they make it before Sat the 13th.
I'm really having some anxieties about these folks coming to visit. I'm not sure if I will be expected to wait on them all or what?? I'm not really prepared to be cooking big meals for company, Lord knows that when I recently had my own company, I did not do any of the cooking and Rod took care of everything, except some of the cleaning stuff.
When I think back before pain. I used to thrive on a busy schedule, I'd get every minute of every day planned out and then just work like a dog. Now it seems like when I know I may be obligated to do some extra work, I worry about even having the ability to do it and also having to explain to strangers, why I just cannot do those things. It's humiliating and I just don't feel good about it. I just have this feeling that Sis will volunteer me to do all kinds of stuff, that I don't normally do. I've been considering having a talk with her about my worries before her company comes, but who knows, that may not work anyway. I really wish I did not have to deal with this stuff.
I'm feeling like a big whiner the past few days, I'm not really blue, but maybe a bit grey. I was feeling soooooo well and was able to see a glimpse of what I used to feel like, was able to do more activities & enjoyed so much doing them. Then the weather went back to cold & rain + damp & drizzily, then my whole body & attitude changes and sometimes when it changes so rapidly, It really brings me down to the grey area emotionally. Oh Well, this too shall pass.
So! How are all of you?? I've been thinking of you all very much and hoping that your days and nights have been going nicely. And also that your weather has been warm and comfortable, as I know too hot, can be miserable too.
I'm hope alone all evening and maybe I'll catch up to some of you online here somewhere. If you've got time, please stop by and post a short note or long one. hehe to just say hello.
Love & Hugs to you all Talk to you soon Betty
Do not be dismayed by toil or suffering, nor by the meager fruit of your labors. Remember that God rewards not according to results, but effort.
Blessed Zefirino Agostini
Posts: 1191 | Location: Home in Washington State | Registered: 11-07-2007
Greetings all, Hope all of you are well. Deb, I'm sorry about your sugery, maybe it wasn't meant to happen right now. I know it's dis-appointing everything happens for a reason, sometimes it's hard to live or realize. Could be there's something better down the road. ellie, glad you're enjoying your house. Be care full not to over do, I know it's tough. I haad a bad nite last nite. Couldn't sleep Heidi was up and down all nite. The apt next door has a dog tied up outside and Heidi heard him all nite long. Got to walk day before yesterday it was hot and muggy, that's our weather stormy for a couple days then hot and muggy. Tomorrow I see the doc for a regular visit and I'm going to have him write me a script for some diabetic shoes my ins company should pay for mostof it..Keep your fingers crossed chuck
Hi Doctors are annoying.. I'm sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I wish my pain would just go away. Every time it seems there is an "answer" it either doesn't work or else I do some fool thing and end up hurting again, and with this blasted drop, dragging foot...
Sorry, I guess my appt. with the neurosurgeon put me in a foul humor. I just hate their attitudes and after a while I feel like, no matter how carefully I explain everything...they just aren't listening. Anyone else feel that way??
Ok, I'm going to work on my assignment. Take care everybody and stay as healthy as possible.
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