Breast Cancer

About one month ago my wife found a lump. We had an appointment with her doctor two days later, a mammogram one week later which was ruled undeterminate. In about a week we go for the biopsy.

Understandably, she is very upset. The only ones that know are me, my mother-inlaw and father-in-law. My wife (49) has told me that she is accepting of whatever comes and has stated that she does not want to be "mutilated". I have told her that whatever she decides I will accept. The problem is that she has gone from finding a lump to dieing and cannot see any hope. Unfortunately, AI had a secretary who had cancer who had a lumpectomy, then a massectomy and then another massectomy and then a recurrance before throwing in the towel. This has scared my wife so much.

So far, I am trying to stay positive but I am darned (fill in stronger word here) scared. As I work on a part-time basis I am doing my of the housework, shopping, cooking, so that is not a worry. But what do I do aside from being a supporter if and when the biopsy results say it is cancer? Has anybody had experience with someone who didn't want treatment?

Thanks

Stephen