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My fiance is BP and takes his meds like he should most of the time you wouldn't even know that he has BP. When we get into discussions sometimes though he latches onto an argument and won't let go even if I agree with him. It's like he doesn't hear me and has to have me say "you are right". I don't know how to deal with the intensity at these times. I want to be able to be my own person and have my own thoughts and be able to share those. How do I handle the times when he gets so intense I feel suffocated and see no way out?
I can't stand myself when I get stuck in the intense ...I have to communicate and be right...please am I making sense mode....I hate the self-centered grip...listening to a loved one in this state is difficult...but this condition is not just limited to those who are BP.....everyone wants to be known and understood and validated....shift gears and suggest doing something different at that moment of suffocation,,,take a walk...take care of yourself....
Thanks for the suggestion. We talked about it and our behaviors and I suggested that we stop and go journal, which is a tool that works well for both of us. I just hope that we can remember to stop instead of beating each other over the head.
