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My wife is Bipolar and we've been married for 5 years. When we got married, she already had 2 kids from before, today 18 and 11. 4 years ago we moved 3000 miles away from our families, full of dreams and excitement. She was diagnosed Bipolar about 3 years ago and things have been tough, although she's been taking her medicine , but she still has not too serious eposides (no fun either) every now and then. Now my mother is ill and I've been thinking of relocating to our home town to be closer to her and, honestly, to the rest of the family, and share the situation and get support from others since I'm the only one who gets all the though times whe she has an episode. We don't really have friends in the area and I'm not crazy about my job, nor she is about hers. The problem is that she thinks that her ex, who hasn't even called the kids in 4 years, if we relocate to or near to our home town, she says, is going to find her daughter and hurt her and she just doesn't want to relocate at all. It's the first time I feel I need her support, with regards my sick mother, but she's become defensive and we've talked about separating. I don't know if I should stay, which breaks my heart since my mom is so fragile, and I fear I'll regret it one day, since many couples with this kind of bipolar problem end up in divorce anyway, or leave her and see if she follows me or if it's the time to split and have a second chance to have a normal life. I'm 40, with no kids of my own, and of course, it's frightening to start over, but if I can't get her support in this first emergency, am I going to get it for anything else? I'm just not sure what to do. Any comments?
