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My fiance was diagnosed with BP when she was 13 years old (she's now 27). Last night when I got home she told me she's now longer in love with me and that she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life with me and she is no longer physically attracted to me and don't want me touch her etc etc. Gave me back the ring and told me that she will be out by Saturday (she lives with me in one of my properties)
I know that by Sunday everything will be back to normal as her "downs" usually last about three days.
However, this is the third time in four months that she's had such a major down and she also told me last week that she has stopped taking her medication about a month and a half ago.
I really love this woman- she is everything I ever wished for, it's just this little devil that sneaks in every now and again. Reading through all the posts on this site it really seems as if the possibility of having a healthy relationship and especially concerning a healthy environment for kids, seems very slim.
I would do anything for her and will help and support her where I can and I truly believe that there's so much good in her, bar the filth that comes out of her mouth and actions when she is in a down swing.
Is there anybody here that have been able to cope with this and would actually advise me to go ahead with this? This is such a major decision and I don't know what the right thing to do is: One the one hand I love her more than anything in this world on the other I don't want to book a life of misery and unhappiness?
I am new to the board as of this week, but I was reading different post, if you are still reading I have an opition about your problem. My feeling is that if she does not take her medicine(and she said she did not take them), then there is not much else you can do. YOu can not force her to take the medicine so you are trapped between a rock and a hard place. YOu love her and really want to stay with her, but it she keeps going manic without her medince then that will eventually become abusive toward you. So the only is medicine or leave and that is the extreme of the two. It is a hard decision, but that ping pong action of hateing you then loving you has got to weight heavy on your mind. So sometimes you do have to take care of yourself and your kids. Good Luck
