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Hi everyone I have just come across this website, and i thought to myself i really need some help.My husband has just been to see a physiciatrist, and they say that he is on "the verge" of bipolar. At the moment i feel like i am going through hell, just as i imagine my husband is. I have known him for 3 years now, and been married for 9 months. The moods are unbearable,i am walking on egg shells..the abuse he throws at me is incredible difficult not to take personally. I do have a question though. When ever he says something nasty, then maybe later on i tell him what he said to me, he'll deny ever saying it. he says he cannot remember saying those things to me. Now is this a classic with Bipolar? Or is it just convienant? I am so mixed up and confused.he has done things that are well unacceptable within a marriage,and my emotions are all over the place. Can anyone give me some advice in how to deal with this? His (manic) episodes are driving me to despair..its almost like a change of personality. I hope to hear from someone soon And thanku for listening...or should i say reading!!!! Sharon
Sharon , my heart goes out to you, I have been in a relationship (Marriage that is ending soon BP Wife filed for divorce ) I have tried everything under the sun to keep our marriage together to with no success. Several times she has broken off our relationship and wanted her space, I have been reading this forum for a couple of months now the find it refreshing that I am not alone even tough I could never wish this king of treatment on anyone. It is simply Brutle. I have been seeing a counsolor and would strongly recomend you do the same. You must educate yourself on this terriable disorder and first and formost take care of yourself first. There will be times when you start to question who is the ill partner and who is normal. GOOD LUCK!
Posts: 1 | Location: Tampa | Registered: 05-02-2008
Hi, Sharon. I don't know if it's classic or not, but I can say that I have experienced the same thing. Sometimes after experiencing an episode I don't remember what happened very clearly at all. It's like I know something happened and the general outline of it but none of the specific details, which makes it easy to deny saying things I may have actually said because I don't remember saying them. It's really rough to deal with, too, as it means having to constantly second guess yourself. I would suggest not arguing with him about it, as it more than likely makes him feel more estranged (I know with myself if it was pushed I got defensive because it was hard to accept). And like RandyS said you should definitely look in to counseling on how to deal with it. All I can offer is my perspective as someone with BD.
