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This is a good week. He loves me -- can't live without me. We're a team and can work through all the issues he is having (about to lose/quit his job, in severe debt, etc.)Last week he hated me -- I was a terrible mother, an uncaring wife, and an adulteress guilty of leading a secret life behind his back.
Almost 10 years of marriage, two young children and I've learned to accept that the good times will be really GOOD and the bad times will be *really BAD*. But, I'm learning to turn off my feelings because it hurts too badly. He is absolutely brilliant -- has an incredible mind. High IQ. Driven. Passionate. Confident...Paranoid, lazy, irriatable, irrational -- perhaps even delusional. Our GP put him on Prozac three years ago -- it helped temper the aggression. But, the problems persist. He refuses to see a psychiatrist or counselor, despite his doc's referral. Am I crazy or am I living with bipolar?
Your husband definetly sounds bipolar. Will your MD try to treat him?? My husband refussed to see a psychiatrist, but his MD was willing to try putting him on meds. He was on zyprexa and lexapro first. we though he was even more aggressive on the zyprexa. He was then switched to Geodone and paxil. That worked- with bad physical side effects but made him level headed again. I was not the enemy. The MD then switched him to Lithium. Once the MD had him stable and he was level headed he finally agreeed to go to the phsychiatrist. Who he has seen religiously every month for the last year. He is not on lithium any more they have switched him to Lamictal because he was getting the tremors so bad from the lithium. My advise is to try and get your MD to treat him. Ours did and it made all the difference.
thanks for your thoughts. Unfortunately, my husband is a pharmacist, and he knows exactly what the MD is attempting to treat based on the meds. 5 years ago we got him on prozac, which did help a little. When the MD added wellbutrin a year or so ago, he became extremely violent. I spoke with our MD the other day and we both agreed that we are at a road block. He is in denial, will not see a therapist or psychiatrist and does not think he has any issues. I talked to my husband again the other night and he is still adament that he has no issues and will not seek additional help. Frustrating...
