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I have no experience with bipolar relationships (as I'm sure you can tell by my many posts), but I have a lot of experience with men, especially male friends who talk to me like I'm one of the guys. They all say that the wouldn't even be with their girlfriends if it wasn't for the upfront sex. These relationships last from between 3 months (when sexual credit usually ends and the woman asks "where is this relationship going?) to a year or more, depending on how many demands the woman makes and how willing she is to listen to excuses from her man ("I'm not looking for anything serious right now", "I'm not ready to get married yet", "I don't know how I really feel yet", etc,)
So, here's my humble suggestion: Don't sleep with him. It's that simple. Cut out the sex, kissing, fooling around, etc. If you truly want to be "just friends", give him a warm, loving hug and a peck on the cheek when you see him. Be there for him as a platonic friend only. Make dinner, go out to dinner (and pay for yourself so he doesn't think it's a date), watch videos, go shopping, go for walks, go out for drinks, etc. Let him ply his goods on someone else and stay out of it. Then see how much he comes around. If he truly loves you (and isn't just "in love" or lusting for you), the two of you can build a friendship and go from there.
Just my two cents for whatever it's worth. Like I'm really in a position to be giving anyone advice here!
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