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Hello le t me start by saying my husband has BP.We have been married for 16 years now.He was diagnosed with it about 10 years ago. We also have a daughter with Downs and a son that is ADHD.This is my first time ever talking about it outside of family.I need some help some how for me and him. I feel like I am loosing myself and wanting to run.I feel as if he is the only one aloude to have feelings. Is it wrong of me to want a life of some kind? Everything we get on our feet we loose it. I try to help him and support him the best i can.He has tryed to kill himself once he has cheated on me lots and every 34 years we loose it all meaning our House,Car,He quits is jobs and we loose Inc.even.And yet I stand by him and try to build him back up.We are now again having to loose our home and move in wiht my mother.The doctores keep changing his meds and wont put him in to do it.He now wont leave the house and cant even face people.It is going on 2 months now and is only getting worse. I am so scared that he not wanting to pull through.How much more can I do? I feel like I am failing all of them.I cant get him to get better help or even talk to someone.I feel as if there is no happyness in him.He LOVED his job and then bam out of the blue he cant face life.How do I help Him and Me.I can only do so much I feel so alone? Please tell me there is some happyness out there for us.We all love him I dont know what more i can do to prove it or show it.Thank you for your time and understanding. am I being unfair for wanting a house or some kind of stableness for us all? I would never leave him seing he cant help it any more then my daugher can help being Downs. I just need some HOPE some where.I dont know what to do. Thanks again The hopeful Family
HI Peekaboo; I don't really have any advice for you, as I am in a situation myself, but I wanted to say I feel for you and will keep your family in my prayers. I am sorry that things are so hard for you, and I know how it feels to just want a normal life.
i just wanted to say hi and i know what you feel.some boat here.wife qiuts job,losing house,she hid for 2 months,4 months of med adjustments.
dont say he cant help it anymore than your daughter.he does have options.he is also an adult( in general terms).i think many bp's want someone else to fix thier mistakes.its easier than facing them,themselves.so you will find new housing for you and your family.you have no choice.he will come along,there is a choice with that. you,we(bp supporters) have endoured more them most poeple ever imagine.or cant imagine.we are strong survivors.we do wants needed ,when needed against impossible odds and somehow manage to get up the next day ready to go again. certainly noone chooses this life,(bp or non-bp) I,like you ,take my vows vey seriously.16 for you 18 for me.that keeps me going everyday.i believe in keeping promises.if i dont ,i let myself and others down.
take comfort in knowing you are giving your all.in the end that maybe your saving grace.win or loose,fail or succed is not important if you gave up. you asked how to "help him and me".start with you.be selfish.your no good to him if your not thinking straight.
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