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I need help. DH is majorly depressed. Over the past few months he has quit a job where he made huge money, because the boss was a jerk. Took months to find a job, only to get one where he is paid tons less then before and doing work way below his skill set. And while out of a job he started and affair with a woman that is in a sexless marriage. They ended it but both seem still longing for each other and now he told me all this trying to push me away. I really should leave but I love him, and feel that as he has in the past is telling me this one because it's true but right now because he's depressed and is just wallowing in it. Before he told me about the affair this morning he said he wants to see a therapist to help with how he reacts to dissappointment. When he doesn't get what he wants he goes and trys to do whatever he needs to make him self happy. Sex, spend money, affair, whatever. HE also told me he just wants to give up. And he has said some things as though he does want me to stay but not sure how much of that is just I'm second choice. What do I do? Do I help him get help, or just start dealing with it's over?
