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Well, my guy had opposite symptoms. But he was never formally diagnosed with hypomania, just OCD, for which he took very heavy doses of SSRI's.
1. Decreased need for sleep and restless talking in his sleep.
2. Decreased need for food, very irregular and unhealthy eating habits.
3. Excessive caffeine consumption (6 cups of coffee and 3-4 "monster" energy drinks per day). Smoking.
4. Appearing inappropriately calm when things were going nuts around him. Accepting blame from his kids when things weren't his fault.
5. Constant complaining about the state of his finances, yet spending money on unnecessary stuff, he said it was ego issues.
6. Starring out into space and seeming miles away.
If anything, I sound like your girlfriend. I was frequently insecure and needing reassurances of his love (but it was because he was giving me the "mad rush" and it had only been 2 months, who wants to have a baby with someone they only know 3 weeks?), I was having emotional crying jags but it was because I was discovering things about him which were incongruous to what he had told me (maybe I was overreacting), I was needing praise because I thought he was taking me for granted once I was there playing "wife" for 2 weeks and working my tail off.
I was confronting him with how things appeared and was having heated conversations with him about needing to control the chaos in his life. I was a nervous wreck the entire time I was there, which could be due to my lack of sleep (I can't get by on only 3-4 hours a night like he can). I recently read that lack of sleep can cause one to hyper-exaggerate any problem that is occurring, making it seem much worse and causing behavioral overreactions. I'm wondering if that happened to me while I was there, because I'm feeling much better about everything now.
Geez, maybe I"M the one who is Bipolar???? Maybe he's the normal one and I just drove him away. But, I'm still willing to work things out and he's the one who just disappeared. If I were the Bipolar one, wouldn't he be the one calling me and I would be "tuning out"??
I think I'm going nuts. I just left him an email and a voice mail. He probably won't answer either, but I love him and have to try.
Here's what I don't understand - how can these people function during the day at work (my guy's a surgeon) and at social events, yet need to "have their space" when we are concerned?? In my case, I think he just does not want to deal with the emotional fallout of breaking up with me. This cruel method is easier for him.
I'm sorry this is happening to you with your girlfriend. It must be very frightening if you are not used to it. I know, I am frightened about what is happening with my guy, who apparently isn't my guy anymore, only he can't tell me that. At least she will still be friends with you and hasn't cut off all communication.
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