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the boy i love has biploar disorder he has been depressed for almost 4 months now, he just turned 18 in december and has wanted to die for as long as he can remember, he says that i am his only reason for living anything he does that is good for him he says he does for me not for himself..he dosent care about himself and im scared to death that hes just going to give up that hes going to get tired of living "for me" he still lives with his parents who tell him regularly that hes worthless and just scream at him constantly..its killing him hes too depressed to work and wont move away because they claim that if he tries theyll have him declared incompitent and control him for the rest of his life am i hurting him by allowing him to say that hes living for me? and how can i help..im so lost im scared to do the wrong thing
I dont think you are hurting him. Everyone needs a reason to wake up in the morning. My husband used to say the same thing to me when he was that age. We did not know he was bipolar yet. He had tried to commit suicide at the age of 15 by overdosing on tylonal. When we got together he said i was the reason he was still alive. Lasr year he had a major bipolar episode and was horrible to me and everyone close- had an affair wanted a divorce. It was really bad. Once it ended he went on medicine- which he says he takes everyday for me. I dont really care the reason he takes them as long as he takes them. My husband like your boyfriend had an awful family life his father always called him a piece of sh** and that he was useless and would never be anything. When we got engagaed instead of congrates from his dad I was told to run away. His son was no good and would just drag me down. I hope this makes you feel alittle better. Stay strong for him. be fun and upbeat- tell him how much he really is worth. Maybe his parents have ruined his self esteem but maybe you can try and build it up again.
thank you for responding and it does help alot i just over-worry espicially with the hold that his parents have on him...he listens to everything they say to him and believes it. i appreciate knowing im not alone or messing him up worse thank you again
