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Hey there... Coming to yet another tough crossroad with my bipolar disorder. I have been someone for about 2 months now & I am not sure when I should have "the talk" with him about the whole thing. He is very open-minded so I don't think he'll be quick to judge and would accept any information I gave him. I am afraid, as with most people, he may be a little freaked out and not want to stick around. I know if he doesn't stick around then he's not the right one because obviously whoever I end up with will have to accept this about me,, but I don't want to ruin my good time either... Anyone have any thoughts or experience in this area?? I'd really appreciate it!
I don't have Bp, my husband does. How do you feel about this guy? Where do you maybe see this relationship going? Do you respect and care for him? If you were in his shoes what would you want? My feeling is that I would want someone to respect and care for me enough to tell me. If the relationship goes to a point that you may talk about moving in together or get married you don't want to leave it until then. And he should have the choice, just as you if the shoe was on the other foot.He may not stay, but isn't it better for him to make that decision now, instead if becoming deeply involved with you--it will hurt much more then. Or to be around when you have an episode and he knows nothing of what's going on --that could really freak him out. And the last thing, don't you deserve someone that loves you enough to be there for you through that? I love my husband enough for that. He had left 6 weeks ago and I am waiting for him to become stable.I love him deeply and want to be there for him and help him--if he lets me. But I think you deserve that for yourself. That's just my opinion, good luck to you Lizzy, I hope everything works out for you.
Posts: 42 | Location: Calgary Alberta | Registered: 02-09-2007
I was in the same boat you are in about a monthand a half ago. I was dating my boyfriend for two months and how he found at was a friend of mine slip up and told him when we were drinking one night he was mad that I didnt trust him enough to tell him sooner and I showed him information and we are doing good. If he cares for you he will understand and take any knowledge that you offer him. Tell him sooner than later!!
You might want to bring up the subject in a round a bout way and bring lots of info about your situation with you because he will probably have alot of questions. Education is the key to any relationship. If you educate him as much as he wants it then he can make the decision on his own and if he loves u enough he will understand and stay with u. My Husband has stayed with me for 23 years now and I was not diagnosed with Bipolar until about 10 years into the marriage. I have educated him with tons of info from books on the subject to internet websites and he is still with me even though he saw me in the lowest part of my life in and out of hospitals and now I am stable and have been for 3 years. If he truely loves u he will stick with u thru thick and thin. Gail
If you want a long-term relationship, tell him. I've met successful people who have raised families and had good careers who are bp. Tell the people you trust. True friends are there when you're up and when you're down. Yes, the ride may get rough, but it gets rough for everybody. But I find bp people are also passionate, and channeled the right way, that means loyal, loving, fun and exciting.
