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My daughter is 21 and I don't have love for her anymore. She has bipolar and probably a borderline personality disorder. She hasn't tried to kill me yet but I have always been a single parent with an amazingly resilient younger daughter. But I have had it with giving my life to my 21 year old with the hell she's put me through and still I feel helpless to her abuse (not physical) in my own home.
I broke down and actually said "I don't love you" last night and I am an outcast in my family now.
 
Posts: 2 | Registered: 05-29-2008Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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how can ou tell your daughter you dont love her? a mothers love endures always,it dont matter what u been through shedidnt ask to be this y you should be more supportive
 
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Hello!

When I read your post, I couldn't help but feel for you and what you are going through. My first thought about what you said, "I don't love my child" was that it isn't your daughter that you don't love; it is her behavior and actions that make you feel like you don't love your child. Being a mom, myself, I can relate to having some rather harsh thoughts and feelings about my only child, Erik. I, too, once thought that I no longer loved my son. As it turns out, I know that I DO love my son. If you can focus on your child's behavior, you can change the way you respond to her.

But, hey, I just don't believe that you no longer love your child. As difficult as it may be to communicate effectively with her, just remember that your daughter's behavior is what you do not love; but your daughter, herself, - well, that is a love that no man or woman can take away from you. Your love for your daughter will surpass any obstacles you encounter.

So - I hope you can see that it is your daughter's behavior that you no longer like or love; I feel certain that your bond with your daughter is still intact, and that you love your daughter very much. By putting things in perspective, you will see that the love is still there.

I wish you well in the coming days, weeks and months. Try to go back in the past and remember all the little things (or even big things) that endeared you to your daughter. I think we sometimes forget about all the good, when the bad seems SO awful. Build yourself up by remembering positive things, and keep that positive energy going! It may not be the only way to deal with this, but it will give you a good start! Smiler
 
Posts: 4 | Location: Burlington, Vermont | Registered: 08-28-2008Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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I totally understand your frustration.. being a parent of a bipolar child is the most difficult things I have EVER had to learn to accept..
I recently read a new Amazon book out that has helped me.. It's a memoir called " I just want my Daughter back - coming to terms with Bipolar 1". It has helped me more than all the therapy sessions that I have been to in the last few years... Sometimes just feeling less alone helps.. This woman... B C Levinson... really nailed it... I just want my daughter back too !!!
Good luck to you and I hope things get better for the both of you.
 
Posts: 4 | Location: PALM BEACH FLORIDA | Registered: 05-17-2009Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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