Bipolar Depression

I have survived 6 years of marriage with a bipolar wife, no children yet, but someday, I hope. We have weathered many storms as normal couples do, but I dont know the difference between what is a "real" issue or manic episode sometimes. Most of the manic issues happen only when she drinks on weekends, acts of volence on me, and cheating I have endured during these hard times, but held on, stayed cool, and rode the rapids. I've done much research and found that her meds will destroy her phy health and cause birth defects. I so want her to quit the meds and weekend drinking, but dont want to impose on her life. I want her to learn,take control rather than I preaching weekly.
Fight the good fight?

When you state that you want her off of her medication, do you mean that you don't want her to take the medicine that controls her disorder? My husband tried to come off of his meds in 2002, he was subsequently hospitalized. It was a rough time in our relationship. You may reconsider your desire to have your wife stop taking her meds. Sometimes having a more stable spouse is tantamount to have a better marriage.

I am a bipolar wife. Only known (diagnosed) since last July, been married to the love ofmy life since 1999. I am still in denial. What does my husband really think of me? I try to get through each day the best that I can, but sometimes that is not the ability I have. I quit the drinking, but it's coming back as the meds mess with me so much and being a mother and not functioning,how do you cope? You are a good husband to stick by your wife as is my husband . I just wonder how much anyone can take with the outbursts of anger and the continuing dependence on alcohol and the mood swings as I have as well. I tend to feel so much more calm when I drink, but I know I am not supposed to. I mean do we really have to live the numbness that is diagnosed to us? If normal is what the meds make me feel I am not sure I want to feel normal. It feels really different.