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HI, Have been told by my husband's doc that he is probably BP. We have been dealing with this for about one month. Has anyone gotten a restraining order on their husband/wife in order to force them to get an evaluation. His doc gave him meds for this and suggested to me that he need an evaluation. I asked him to get one which he refused so because of some scary instances got the restraining order in order to get him to evaluation, which they did today in court-had it extended. Was the hardest thing I have ever done. I love my husband but he is not the man I know. He cannot come home but can see our children and we have a lot of leeway as we can communicate and have unlimited contact. I feel so awful doing this but was becoming very scary living with him, with all his rage and really want him to get treatment so we can get along with our life if that is possible but not ready to give up on him. It was just so hard sitting in court with him right there and having to say all these things about him. I went around touching his clothes and hugging them. I just miss him so much. I cannot believe all this is happening. So hard to explain to our children why Daddy is not home. Thanks for listening. Karen
I had my ex committed for three days because of his BP, but never had to get a restraining order. I know what you are going to is extremely hard right now. I really suggest you go on my blog of "Do I leave or do I stay?" Its under the family and friends section. You will find a great deal of support and friendship there. Good Luck with your husband. You can get through this.
I have bpII and I am certain that it contributed to the breakup of relationships. But I have learned a lot since then. If you are in physical, emotional or some kind of danger, it's best to get away or have some distance. I've been to group therapy and his topic comes up. The key to me is intent: If the bp person shows he/she is willing to change--get to the doc, take meds, sleep, exercise, avoid stress, then the caregiver should hang in there. If not, then it's up to you. Life will be difficult if the bp person doesn't take action. It is tough going through what you did. You are strong. But if he gets through this, and follows doctor's orders, your relationship could potentially be stronger, your love enhanced. A new homecoming. I believe in hope.
