Bipolar Depression

Well, I so just managed to get arrested for the first time in my entire life trying to get my wife help with her Bi-Polar. Now There is a no contact order for at least a minimal of a month, possibly forever since I am charged with harrassment. To make a long story short, after her rampage of stealing stuff, and actually in the process of being determined if she will be charged or not, I confronted her in person and requested she come home or go to the hospital to seek help. Unfortunatly Mr. Newcomer calls the police and both him and my wife tell them I am harrassing them. They request I get arrested and issued a no contact order. They arrest me on the spot saying that she appears normal to them and told me who am I to diagnose and say she is not fine.. I worry and fear for her safety. Now with this order she will never come around me or seek help.
Any suggestions or comments?
How does one obtain help and treatment for Bi-Polar if your loved one refuses and if police are able to do this?

Let her go!
Please for your own sake and sanity let her go. She is with someone at the moment and if this is true bipolar mania, it may not last very long. You were almost arrested for harassment and now you have a court order in place against you. If you continue pursuing this they may think you are stalking which is worse than harassing. The old saying is true. Let them go, if they come back then fine, if not then they weren't meant to be with you in the first place. Set them and yourself free. You are only allowing her illness to destroy yourself bit by bit. You love her and are concerned, wonderful, great, but she has left. Whether it is her personality peaking through, whether it is mania taking hold, whether she is just trying things out, whatever it is you must take care of you first and for Pete's sake let her go.

Bubba: I am so sorry for what has happened, but now you must think of yourself and your children. If she is in a manic episode she will not listen to you, she is unable to understand your worries. If she does not want to get help you cannot force her to. I know how hurt and upset you are, your whole world has fallen apart. Now you must take care of yourself, you should get in to see psychiatrist for yourself. You must not let this destroy your life. You sound like a wonderful young man, who has a lot to offer. We have all said the BP has to hit bottom before they will reach out for help. She has not. So please stay away from her, if you can hire an attorney to help you with the charges so you can perhaps get them dropped. But stay away from her. You must think of yourself right now, no matter how hard it is, at the moment you are better off without her. Take Care.

Bubba, We all understand your pain...The best thing you can do is let her be...I agree with what everyone has said... Yes, its hard.. I did not want my husband to walk out the door and leave.. I wanted to hang on for dear life and never let him go...Our reality is this, we cannot be sucked into this chaos, it will only bring us down and cause more problems.. Let her wonder why you are not coming to her rescue, let God take care of her...He will intervene..No one can keep up this pace forever, something will happen, just get out of the way and let it happen, you are only prolonging the inevitable.. you have to allow her to fall and hit her bottome, if you keep picking up the pieces she will keep doing what she is doing and you will keep getting what you get.. i think you have heard this before.. What is the definition of insanity, its repeating the same things over and over again and expecting different results...Ok, you tried to help, you tried to be there for her, its not working, now do something different.. I am not trying to diminish your pain, believe me, I feel it too, very much... We just have to realize when we have to step out of the way, let things happen, if she comes to you for help so be it.. but i wouldnt allow her back into your life until she shows months and months of being clean and sober, taking meds, and getting counseling.. you deserve so much better and so do she, but she cant see that right now.. You can.. you are strong, and strong sometimes means not doing anything...Pray and wait.. that is all you can do.. Hang there it does get better if we allow it too... take care.