Bipolar Depression

I am living with a spouse who was diagnosed 8 months ago. I am so confused,hurt, angry...what to do. He is always angry.

I know your pain. My husband was diagnosed alittle over a year ago. He is also the angry type. While we were in the grips of an episode everything i did pissed him off. I was constantly walking on egg shells. It just kept seeming like he could not get worse and then it would get worse. at one point i actually threw him out of our home and he kicked in the front door. I had to then get a restraining order. we spent a total of only about a week apart and the current med the doctor had prescribed started to work.
The only thing that you can do is ride out the waves. Is you husband seeing a doctor? Is he on any meds? It is so hard starting meds since there are so many out there and not all work on everyone. My husband was on zyprexa first- but that one actually brought on his rage more. Then they put him on geodone- that made him more level but gave him horrible physical pain. Then they put him on Lythium, which worked wonders for him until about two months ago. he got the tremors so bad he could not even write anymore. the doctor is now switching him to lamictal, which so far so good.
each med though took four to six weeks for full effects so you never know right away if this is the med that will be for him.
I found last year when he was angry if i just left him in the computer room alone it would stop. but god forbid i wanted him to do something with me. he literally spent hours in the computer room building car models. It calmed him down and he left me alone.
I make it sound like his only problems were just anger issues. there was another female involved in all of this mess. She was an old friend from high school who was also bipolar, also in the grips of an episode. She was so perfect in his eyes and he wanted to leave me to be with her. It was extrremly hard to take all of this.
Everything is great now though. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. He has been stable for almost a year now. He sees his doctor once a month and takes his meds everyday. i still have hurt feelings about all the stuff that he did to me but i just keep tring to tell myself it was the disease not my husband.
keep yourself strong, try to stay out of the hurrican. maybe you could find a hobby for him to do to get away. Alot of people with bipolar tend to be artisticand creative. They seenm to enjoy small detailed work. While were were in support group one of the guys was building his wife a dollhouse. Oh thats another thing you could do- find a local support group- even if your hubby wont go with you it is so good to here that you are not alone.
Good luck

I have bp and am often angry too. Best you can do is be caring and remind him, very often, that you love him very much. That will help.
Other things: Read up on the disease. Go with him to support groups and doctor. And remind him about the keys: Sleep, exercise, avoiding stress.
This is me: I told my girlfriend to do me a favor: When I'm angry, give me 15 minutes. Usually it will pass. Rub my back. Say something nice. With that attention, my anger usually fades.